Ask Women on Yik Yak | Definitely going to upset people with this question, but I’m not saying it’s all guys. But why is it that I’m running into more guys that need a mother and not a girlfriend? I feel at 22 a guy who can’t cook because “he’s a man” isn’t a valid excuse.

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Definitely going to upset people with this question, but I’m not saying it’s all guys. But why is it that I’m running into more guys that need a mother and not a girlfriend? I feel at 22 a guy who can’t cook because “he’s a man” isn’t a valid excuse.

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Anonymous 1d

Can he just not cook? Or is it a lot of things he can’t do?

Anonymous 1d

so many guys need a mom and i was so burned out being the mom, the therapist, the maid, the cook, ect. for men that i gave up until i met my fiancé and i realized that i had been dating men who were functionally children when he could cook, clean, had more than one pillow, knew what a mop was, knew how to fix stuff around the house, knew how to reset the wifi router, knew basic hygiene, did his own taxes, ect. and that i found that all insanely attractive.

Anonymous 1d

One of my best friends can’t cook. Her reaction? Asking us to help her learn how. It’s okay to not know, but how you handle the knowledge gap is what matters

Anonymous 1d

My buddies ex 22 never had preheated an oven dead ass never uses an oven “My mom cooks for me”

Anonymous 1d

My Stepbrother is like this.. 24 years old and lives at home working part time gaming the rest and if his Mom or my Dad don’t cook he just lives off cereal and takeout. He has no desire to learn and assumes eventually a woman will come along and do it for him. The worst part is my Stepmom supports his behavior. Ughh!

Anonymous 1d

i dont really know the context but you should know how to cook stuff no later than 16 even if you have other people cook for you

Anonymous 18h

It’s so stupid when someone needs a caretaker when going into a relationship. Like you’re supposed to both be independent and capable of basic tasks before you go into a relationship 🥀

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Anonymous 1d

Darling, you just like losers 🤷‍♂️. The family babied him too long and now he can’t live his own life

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Anonymous

#1 1d

Oh it’s quite a bit. He’s never worked an actual job that you’d require taxes for. He just does school work, the bare minimum, and play on the PC

Anonymous

OP 1d

Okay I was going to say maybe he has his life together but never had to cook growing up. Never mind!

Anonymous

#1 1d

I was shocked when he told me he’s never helped his mother with any any family meals because he was never asked to 🤦‍♀️

Anonymous

#2 1d

The second sentence is correct. The first one isn’t

Anonymous

OP 1d

Sounds like you don’t like the soft upbringing he had with 2 stable parents and the ability to be able to focus on academics than him needing a “mother” lol

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Anonymous

#3 1d

How is it not?

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Anonymous

#4 1d

He should still know the basics, or at least have a willingness to learn. If you really do have a good family life like that, you’ll end up wanting to help out from time to time. Having a good family does NOT mean you never do any chores.

Anonymous

#6 1d

I think we should separate chores from cooking haha. I’m unsure if the guy told OP that he’s not willing to learn from what was given so far. Most guys (and women) learn in college if you didn’t know. You’re starting to learn more independently and also patriarchal norms usually don’t have mothers teaching their sons how to cook. Not because of an adherence towards patriarchy but unconscious conditions we exist in..

Anonymous

#4 1d

That’s totally fair. If he’s down to learn when it’s necessary or only right, it’s all good imo.

Anonymous

#2 1d

Bc ppl don’t just “like losers” you moron

Anonymous

#6 1d

Yea I’m sure op and him could make a real connection if they made a cooking date. Me and my gf learned to cook many different things together. The first time was extremely rough for us but it teaches good communication and how the other person operates lol

Anonymous

#9 1d

it had me realizing that so many men (not all but a lot of the ones i have known) don’t know how to take care of themselves or actually do anything around the house because society doesn’t expect them too. whereas most women know how to cook, clean, and take care of themselves as well as others at a much younger age.

Anonymous

#4 1h

Sounds like his parents failed to teach him basic life skill..? Saying this AS a parent. 😬