if it doesn’t apply then i wasn’t talking about you. i still dislike the ones that complain about loneliness to women because it feels like they’re fishing for pity. like what do you expect our response to be? if you want to fix your problem there are ways to put yourself out there and fix it

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tbh it’s hard for me to be understanding because the vast majority of the time there is something about you that’s the root of your loneliness. either you have a lack of self esteem, are anti-social, or have some problematic views usually. maybe it’s just because i’m more of a tough love person but like… you can take steps to work on those things instead of sitting there complaining. having a defeatist attitude is going to get you nowhere.

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and i say all this to try to help any man who feels this way because i think they need to be pushed. it’s exactly what i would tell a close friend or brother. the more you wallow about it, the tougher it’s going to be to pull yourself out of it.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 15w

exactly what i’m saying

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that doesn’t make any sense though. wouldn’t you want to talk to someone who is more likely to have had similar experiences to you?

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Srry suppose to be a separate comment

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then your case is different. maybe it needs to be said that none of us in the comments are talking in absolutes. your response to most of us seems to be “not all men”/“not me” and in that case feel free to ignore what we’re saying because we aren’t talking to/about you. what we’re saying is based on what we’ve seen a lot of the time

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Anonymous #2 15w

Seriously. As soon as they start in with the “not all men” bullshit, it’s because they fit into EXACTLY what we’re talking about.

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i just don’t understand why you feel the need to respond/defend yourself if you know we aren’t talking about you

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If it wasn’t you, you wouldn’t have felt the need to respond.

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well okay, my bad then. but you did say the same thing not as a joke several times in this thread so it was a little unclear lol

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Anonymous #2 15w

I’ve literally had a guy I was simply just standing next to sigh and go “Im so loney… I have no love life..” like okay do you want a cookie or

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i don’t think i give a fuck bc whatever it’s about, women experience it too and we don’t label it a “pandemic” cuz that shit is r3tarded as fuck, get help, get counseling, get support, don’t make the internet pity u by labeling ur emotions a “pandemic” the fuck

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You may have one because you’re not a jerk like this dude is from what I can tell. However, I do not want to hear someone whining about how they’re “oh so lonely” when I was minding my own business and it didn’t have to do with anything at all

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sure as hell gonna be hostile when all men do is seek pity from women while they make up majority of violent crimes, rape, abuse, homicides against women. Literally 50 to 60% of woman that die are at the hands of men so why should I feel bad because men now suddenly claim there’s a loneliness epidemic, boy I don’t give a fuck. i can’t feel sympathy from people who literally consistently oppress women?

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i’m done with men that seek pity for their own problems and then commit violent crimes to cope with whatever problems they have. Men need to have the emotional intelligence to do better for themselves and stop seeking pity from women whom they oppress the most. If you’re a man and you can hold accountability for your actions and acknowledge that there is a problem then you’re on some sort of right track.

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I’m not done with every single man on planet earth but the ones that continue to self pity and claim there’s a male loneliness epidemic because they don’t have the emotional intelligence to seek help and counseling and rather seek pity from other people yeah I’m done with those men

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If it’s affecting both men and women, why is it called male loneliness epidemic? these are feelings and emotions that you should go to counseling and get support for. We don’t call it male depression epidemic. For women, anxiety epidemic. These are just things people should deal with without calling it an epidemic because it’s stupid. men use “epidemic” because they wanna seek pity and attention for themselves, maybe not you, but that’s why men coined it as male loneliness epidemic.

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again, there’s no reason to call these emotions and epidemic. Everyone goes through anxiety. Everyone goes thru depression. I do think that men obviously can have mental illness and be depressed and have anxiety, but you don’t call it epidemic. women go through this and we don’t call it female anxiety epidemic because it’s stupid. It only seeks pity and attention

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, so for rape victims should we call it female rape epidemic? Because they’re disproportionally affected by rape is that what we should call it now? it doesn’t make any sense. No women would do this because we don’t want to seek attention. We want men to change and do better. Just because you’re lonely doesn’t mean it’s an epidemic. Everyone gets lonely. Women are disproportionally affected by many things and we don’t call it an epidemic.

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and most men part of the male loneliness epidemic blame it on women because most men defined it as not being able to get laid or a deep connection with a woman because women have higher standards, and the reason we have higher standards is because of the statistics of how many men, abuse, rape or harm us or are just misogynistic. So this epidemic is inflicted on yourselves like I don’t understand how you expect us to feel pity.

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this is a reasonable take. honestly if we seem hostile here it’s only because we’ve dealt with so many guys who are just seeking pity or making themselves out to be a victim and it’s frustrating. i do feel for you if you’re in a situation where you’re lacking intimacy (emotional/physical) but as women it gets tiring to hear about it over and over again from guys we don’t even know.

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okay i don’t agree with men’s mental health needing more attention than women’s though tf

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OK, so what about the women who are disproportionally harmed by men because 90% of rape, physical abuse and homicide committed towards women are by men. So what should we do? I think it’s important to focus on mental health for everyone, but I think it’s also important to acknowledge that men commit most crimes so they should take it upon themselves to seek help not pity or attention.

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Do you think men give attention to women’s mental health? Do you think men genuinely give a fuck about women’s mental health? I’ve never heard a man say they ever care about the stability of women. And the fact that y’all use this loneliness epidemic to seek pity from women when y’all don’t give a fuck makes no sense.

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yeah, you’re one in 1 million bro. given the statistics of how heavily and disproportionally women are targeted , abused, and killed , by men I’d say most men do not give a fuck about women’s mental health, physical health or emotional health at all so I have no pity to give. Once those proportions go down maybe y’all will get some pity from me.

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I’m talking about percentage of women that are affected by men. I’m not talking about men who commit crimes I’m talking about how women are disproportionally affected harmed and killed by men. I don’t care what small percentage of men commit crimes , it’s the fact that women are disproportionally affected and we don’t make it an epidemic

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And yes, every man I’ve ever encountered has been misogynistic or oppressive towards women. I’m sure there are men that are not oppressive or evil but if it’s a pattern that women are so disproportionately harmed by men, I’m not gonna go out and just openly trust men

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i’m not talking about men’s mental health. I’m talking about the male loneliness epidemic. I think that term is only used to seek pity and attention because men can’t get laid or can’t get a connection to a woman because they make it harder for women to like them and trust them. Men complain about high standards yet we have to worry what’s gonna happen anytime we approach a man.

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I think you guys should be glad that you get to complain about being lonely rather than complaining about being raped, physically abused,, drugged, stalked, or even killed.

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no? what kinda question is that lmao i love my dad 😭

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every man besides my dad*

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well thank you i do appreciate that, and apologies for any hostility

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(I mean this as a genuine question) why don’t you attempt to deepen your friendships? Are they not receptive? Do you not know how? What prevents you from actually having fulfilling connections with your friends?

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Anonymous #17 15w

Also, the „nice guys“ aren’t the ones walking around saying it (quite the opposite), they’re the ones proving it.

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Anonymous #3 15w

Amen to that

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