Anonymous #1 1d

yes we’ve tried it all. i’d like to think i do a good job w all that as well. this isn’t the first time ive had issues like this so im used to foreplay being 90% of the sex, its just especially hard w her

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Anonymous OP 1d

Has she ever had evaluations for conditions like vaginismus?

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Anonymous #1 1d

If not or if you’re unsure, you might want to suggest it

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Anonymous #1 1d

yes she has and there is nothing medically wrong

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Anonymous #2 1d

I mean shallow as in depth wise. Not personality wise

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Anonymous #2 1d

hahaha thank u for the correction i thought this was an insult at first 🫡 but to answer ur question, i dont know thats kinda what im trying to figure out. sexual compatibility is definitely important to me, but on the hand im worried ill have this issue w every girl i try to get serious with. so im worried ill make a decision about this girl based on an issue that isn’t going away

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Anonymous OP 1d

Not necessarily! Some woman are more able to take larger because of the depth. There’s absolutely women who can take it. But also there’s different things you two can do! Some positions are better than others, foreplay, lube and taking your time are all very important. In the mean time you two can talk about it- or do sexual acts that don’t involve insertion.

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Anonymous #4 1d

I mean, I like sex with my partner. It’s a good way to feel physically connected and vulnerable with each other

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Anonymous #2 1d

yeah but you shouldn’t need to be inside of them for that. There are so many ways to have sex without penetration. And you can still be physically connected and vulnerable with each other. If you MUST penetrate your partner for that, then you are being shallow and lustful and should probably break up

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Anonymous #4 1d

That feels like a lot of projection

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Anonymous #2 1d

How on earth is that projection?

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Anonymous #4 1d

It’s not shallow or lustful to want to have intercourse with your partner, you sound like you have some insecurities to work through or something Like I agree that there are obviously other ways to have sex, but intercourse is important to most people

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Anonymous #1 1d

It is absolutely shallow to only care about penetrative sex. Sorry, potentially breaking up with your partner because you can’t stick it in them is ridiculous and means you never loved them in the first place. These are things that need to be discussed in the beginning of the relationship so you avoid these bumps down the road.

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Anonymous #4 1d

i don’t only care about that hahaha but sexual compatibility should definitely a consideration when ur trying to figure out ur future w someone. pretty childish of you to think that’s shallow. like i said ive only been w this girl for a little while, and i never claimed i am head over hills in love with her, that comes with time. love is not black and white maybe you’ll learn that w time

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Anonymous OP 1d

I mean if it’s only been a month that’s more understandable

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Anonymous OP 1d

oops heels**

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Anonymous #4 1d

thank u for ur approval 🥰

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1d

i appreciate it!! i think im going to have another more pointed conversation w her about this and gauge her perspective. but we really have tried everything so i’m not super optimistic, regardless thank u for the genuine advice it’s very sweet

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Anonymous #6 54m

like what?

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