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What’s the overall opinion on being called ma’am? Like yes ma’am, no ma’am?
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Anonymous 16w

Hell no, that makes me feel like I’m 80 years old

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Anonymous 16w

i think it’s kinda cute, i’m not from a part of the country where it’s common tho

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Anonymous 16w

If that’s the way u normally talk then it can be charming like I feel like some southern guys just naturally do that but I wouldn’t force it

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Anonymous 16w

Gross to me it just makes me feel uncomfortable. It gives basement dweller. Almost Every time I have a weird guy in my DMs they always use ma’am

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Anonymous 16w

Doesn’t bother me

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Anonymous 16w

I live in the south so it doesn't bother me but it also wouldn't make me swoon

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Anonymous 16w

I don’t care

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Anonymous 16w

i like it. but only when it’s from someone younger than me. if you’re older than me call me miss.

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Anonymous 16w

Appreciate you being receptive to questions! I’ll have to keep that in mind next time I visit the northwest!

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Anonymous 16w

I have exactly one person in my life who I will let call me ma’am, at even at that the yes, no attached to it always feels condescending. It also definitely feels different depending on the age of the person, but generally don’t like it, and tends to make me think less of the person who said it

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Anonymous 16w

Eh, I personally don’t like it when people say it bc it makes me feel old but if they got a southern accent I’m chill with it bc that’s just the South

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

That’s just how I was raised so I was just curious. I had always said it but now I’m in cali so I’m not sure if it’s disrespectful here?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Idk anywhere it would be considered disrespectful, but I also live in kentucky lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Not the point just trying to be respectful. Just wondering if it’s seen as disrespectful in other parts of the country

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

Yea I’ve been to Kentucky and the vibes were the same when I said it there

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 16w

What part of the country are you from? If you don’t mind me asking ofc

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

I meant more like in person but I can absolutely see that whole “tips fedora” kinda thing happening in dms

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

I assume those parts are either the northwest, north east, or west coast

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Yeah idk it’s never rly happened much in person. Ig id feel neutral about it irl

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

north east

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

Yea I figured. Good feedback thank you!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Well again, it doesn't bother me

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

Appreciate the feedback!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Good to know!

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 16w

I usually do a mix of both. Like Miss “insert name here” when calling their name but “yes ma’am” or “ no ma’am” when responding to them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I’m from the East, we don’t hear a lot of people talking like that besides as a term of respect for older people. I’ve been called that once or twice but it’s very strange.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 16w

Like randomly or while you were working?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Randomly. I was shopping for food and someone said “excuse me ma’am” and I freaked out. It doesn’t help I look extremely young.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 16w

Would “excuse me miss?” be better in that situation?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I’m honestly not sure. I’ve hardly ever heard anyone refer to anyone as ma’am. I don’t even really do it towards those who are older. Miss would be much better for me personally, yes.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 16w

So wait, do yall use any terms of respect like “ma’am” or “miss” where you’re from?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Uhhh that’s a great question. In the specific area I live in? Not really. Everyone is very nice and opens the doors for one another, and gives smiles and such but most terms of respect are used by service workers.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 16w

Ok so there’s respect being shown just not through those terms. I really just don’t want to seem weird by using those terms in other regions 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I don’t think you’ll be necessary seen as weird- especially if you have a southern accent lol. It’s more of a culture difference than anything else.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 16w

Oh the accent is a whole different animal I’d be afraid that people wouldn’t understand what I’m saying. I really appreciate the responses strawberry!

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 16w

Yea if no accent it sounds kinda incel. That’s good to hear though! A lot easier to fix speech my speech habits than my accent itself but if I don’t have to fix either even better!

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