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i feel like i’m the best bf i can be, but my gf barley does bare minimum why is this?
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Anonymous 10w

king talk to her

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Anonymous 10w

depends on the woman, ones who come from less fortunate backgrounds never developed the giver qualities

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Anonymous 10w

What’s the best and the bare minimum is entirely subjective. Either of you may think you’re a great partner but not be one to the other in important ways. Talk to each other about love languages and communication styles, what you need from the other to feel appreciated WITHOUT attacking each other or making negative assumptions. See how well what you both say is lining up with what you’re doing and if it’s not see if you’re both willing to make those changes.

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Anonymous 10w

King, she’s not worth it. If she can’t listen to your concerns without starting an argument, then she doesn’t love you. Maybe losing you will be the wake up call she needs, or maybe she will always just be a bad person.

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Anonymous 10w

This is normal

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

how

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

if she promises to do more then does for like a week and then goes back into her habits, leave her

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

i try she just says she don’t and starts arguing with me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

leave her, it may be hard but once youre over her you will realize how happy you are

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

shes just not your person and thats okay

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

she will find someone who appreciates her effort and youll find someone who will reciprocate your love

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

But also after reading the comments if you ARE trying to talk to her and it’s not accusatory or anything and she’s shutting you down it may mean y’all aren’t aligned in important ways and it’s better to end things

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

she’s says i’m just complaining and just talking

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Hmmm what are you saying when you start the conversation with her?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

how she’s making me lose feelings and she says if you can’t tell me what i don’t do your just talking, but she doesn’t do anything for me or even act like she wants to be with me so can’t tell her what she don’t do when she does nothing for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Well if she’s literally not doing anything for you at all why are you with her? I think your feelings are valid and she shouldn’t automatically be dismissive. At the same time just going “YOU’RE making me lose feelings and YOU’RE not doing anything for me but I can’t name anything I WANT you to do” isn’t a great way to communicate. Again feelings are valid but sitting with it and figuring out how to express it better may help.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Like really think about what you want from her and instead of making her responsible for your feelings frame it as things that help you feel loved, wanted, and appreciated.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

This seems like a stretch.

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