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Ladies, how do I go about checking in with my boyfriend that he’s happy and satisfied with where our relationship is without sounding overly insecure or smth? I want to make sure everything’s going okay without sounding like I’m begging for reassurance 😭
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Anonymous 1d

you could have like a monthly check-in talk scheduled so it's less like you bringing it up and more like a thing you guys just agree to do

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Anonymous 1d

I’m totally aware I’m really overthinking rn but I’m really struggling to get out of that spiral so I’m searching for an outside perspective

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Anonymous 1d

is there any reason as to why you think he wouldn’t be happy? like based off of your actions or his? what’s giving you the need to ask?

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Anonymous 1d

Just tell him you’re checking in on him & ask him if he’s happy/comfortable with where the relationship is lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Kind of mine I suppose, I kind of worry that I’m not doing “enough,”(easy to overthink about, I know lol) I do trust him to tell me if he needs something more from me I also know it can kind of be a hard thing to bring up. I could totally be jumping the gun but it’s also partially to “touch base” and provide an opportunity to have a discussion if needed, yk? I am absolutely aware that I’m probably overcomplicating it lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

yes, you could be (partially) overthinking, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to touch base with him and making sure that he’s satisfied. and actually, it’s a really good thing that you even care to do so! maybe you could ask him if there’s anything that’s been bothering him? or if there’s anything that he wants to change? since he hasn’t been showing any dissatisfaction (i’m assuming), then asking once is fine to ease your worries, and then just go from there!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Thank you sm! That does help!

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