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I just got my first girlfriend so what are some basic things I should know/do so I can be a good boyfriend and make her happy? She has been in a relationship before.
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Anonymous 4d

dude ask her this not us. you wouldn't rather hear her opinion?

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Anonymous 4d

Listen to her, when she comes to you with problems ask if she wants solutions or validation

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Anonymous 3d

never stop dating like “how you got her”. relationships require maintenance. make a list in your notes app of all her favs and randomly get her fav of something. when conflicts arise, approach it calmly, never raise your voice, actually listen and take into consideration her perspective. be open to learning. and go all in, don’t half ass anything and love/care hard. the half assing part though, have frequent conversation’s on where you both are mentally to see the % of what you both can give

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Anonymous 4d

get her flowers randomly on a regular basis, talk to her about boundaries and needs, take her on dates regularly, put in consistent effort and u should be good

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Anonymous 3d

Honestly just listen, don’t fall into a routine too quickly (just staying in watching tv) try new things together and try to go on a REAL date once or twice a month

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Anonymous 2d

i dated a guy who had never been in a relationship before and these were some mistakes he made out of lack of experience and ignorance in general: 1. didn’t offer to pay when we went out (always split the bill) 2. didn’t put much thought into gifts (thought that the amount/price of things mattered over sentiment) 3. couldn’t handle my past (had a hard time dealing with some past traumas from my old relationships, therefor was not respectful or understanding of these things)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4d

When women say get them flowers regularly, go to like a Trader Joe’s and get a bouquet or look up a tutorial on tik tok to make ur own bouquet

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3d

This could be for a every once in a while but I’m sure any girl would also love the $10 bouquets from the grocery store

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3d

with flowers, if you’re ever driving (with or without her) sometimes a little hand made bouquet of a few wildflowers is so romantic. it’s usually just the thought and effort and going out of your way for her

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2d

4. was complacent (he got the girl and he thought that’s where his effort ended) 5. never planned anything ever 6. didn’t introduce me to his friends 7. didn’t want to hang out with my friends either 8. cried if i ever brought up an issue, so i ended up being his therapist even though i was the one hurt 9. probably so much more

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2d

point is, put in the effort, don’t be afraid to commit because if it doesn’t work out, at least you went all in and allowed yourself to enjoy that time. listen to her. i cannot stress that enough. she will tell you what she wants and needs, directly or indirectly. just listen. plan things!! so many women i know have dealt with men never planning things and it sucks. be open and honest with communication. and respect each other and take care of each other.

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