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Ask Women 9w

Ladies, I told hb relationships should be 100/100 not 50/50 he looked at me weird. Am I right or wrong??

Anonymous 9w

I like that. Everyone should give their all towards their partner.

Anonymous 9w

100/100 is exactly what it should be. You’re not wrong or weird for that

Anonymous 9w

I think is x+y=100. Some days I can only give 30% so you’re going to have to pick up that extra 70%. And Vice versa. And some days, we will both be running on 30% and we need to find ways to gather that extra 40%. I don’t think we always need to be on the same energy and effort level and def not always 100%

Anonymous 9w

What is hb?

Anonymous 9w

Tbh I feel like my perspective on this isn’t the usual one😭 I don’t really agree with it, personally. I think mutual effort is important in a relationship, but it’s unrealistic to be like that *all* of the time. Shit happens and sometimes things may need more of your attention

Anonymous

#1 9w

He said im not providing everything I get to a girl. I feel like the problem is we look at relationships roles from a financial and materialistic standpoint only. Theres more to a healthy relationship than what u can just give

Anonymous

OP 9w

Yeah exactly. I took what you said not as financial.

Anonymous

OP 9w

I believe it should be 40/60 60/40 80/20 etc bc you’re always trying for 100 but everyone has bad days so it’s you’re guy’s jobs as partners to make up for who’s giving a little less in order to make that 100

Anonymous

#5 9w

Husband

Anonymous

#6 9w

Yes but the goal should be to give your all and if your all sometimes isn’t to it’s highest capability that’s ok. That can still be your all for the moment.

Anonymous

#1 9w

My thing is some people I know treat dating as a trade, or transactional and Im not a fan of it. He/she shouldn’t have to do something first, or you shouldn’t do something expecting a favor in return unless its necessary yk? Why dont we give our partners the world because we love them lol.

Anonymous

#1 9w

I think you should give what you are able to. Sometimes that can’t be your all because there’s other things in each others lives that are important too. I don’t want the man I’m with to give his all to me while I’m having to focus on mental health stuff for a time..while he’s not seeing his friends much. It’s about finding balance that works for the both of you.

Anonymous

OP 9w

I agree! I don’t really trust people that view relationships like that. I’m giving all that I can and I trust that my partner will do the same. If at times they have to give less, that’s okay because I know that they love me and have their reasons, such as self-care or focusing on some deadlines with work, etc.