Ask Women on Yik Yak | Advice needed: am I valid for being upset that I wasn’t invited to my “best friend” getting engaged? Long story short several other ppl were invited except me.

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Advice needed: am I valid for being upset that I wasn’t invited to my “best friend” getting engaged? Long story short several other ppl were invited except me.

Anonymous 5w

And here’s one more thing. I got married secretly. We eloped on a Wednesday when I was visiting him. I still told people that I was close with. The people that I wanted to know knew

Anonymous 5w

I would say that is valid. I wouldn’t aim your anger at them though because they also get to choose who is at their engagement. It sucks andi get that but also it’s their moment and maybe they wanted to keep it small! You’ll probably get invited to the wedding. If you feel a need to confront about it keep it to “I felt upset when ______ happened. It makes me feel _____” instead of blaming them for it

Anonymous 5w

Definitely valid I would be upset too

Anonymous

#1 5w

I 100% don’t want to aim anger at them. But it’s like I’m always trying to hang out & they can’t ever make plans with me but can hang with other ppl and it’s always a fast dinner never like hanging out. We have dinner planned and it’ll b for the first time in 3 months. She calls me daily to complain abt him and I had already told her my feelings were hurt that we don’t hang out anymore and she still never texted me to hang u til I texted her the other day for dinner

Anonymous

OP 5w

It sounds like they’re bad friends then and you should distance yourself and move on. Making new friends can be hard but there will be people in your life that want you for more than ranting sessions

Anonymous

OP 5w

And also one of the ppl invited is from out of state and like if just feels like I wasn’t even thought of. - sorry for spilling everything but like idek who to talk to and idek if I’m valid bc i genuinely feel like just unfriendinh them bc I jus don’t think they include me anymore on anything and idk im just tired of feeling left out after I’ve already said something

Anonymous

OP 5w

I’d probably be mature about it and be like “please stop contacting me just to rant. I want to be your friend but it’s clear you don’t want to be mine” or something along those lines. It truly sounds like they’re bad friends just don’t think of you. When I’m friends with someone I WANT to hang out with them and be around them

Anonymous

#1 5w

Yes like I just feel like it’s very much like oh well. And they don’t value the friendship like I do bc how tf is she gonna call me wanting to know if she can stay a few days bc she’s over his shit but then I don’t even get invited to that?? Oh but who did u call when u needed somehere bc it wasn’t those bitches