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As a guy: How can I know if a woman is hiding her uncomfortableness? I’m not a creep and have social awareness but I overthink and assume a girl is not interested when I’m not sure 🤔

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Anonymous 11w

If she’s interested then she will say yes to whatever you’re asking her to do, if she’s not then the best thing to do is accept a no and leave her alone after that

Anonymous 11w

This just as someone with a ton of trauma , it takes me a while to feel comfortable with men. They may not always share those things so if you find yourself with someone like me, I suggest just finding a girl that despite that aspect, she is able to set boundaries. Asking her what she wants or feels comfortable with can help too. If a girl isn’t able to speak up and set boundaries, than she likely just isn’t ready for a relationship.

Anonymous 11w

if you can’t tell, it’s better to just not put her in a situation where she might get uncomfy. women get uncomfy when 1) your intentions are unclear to them and 2) they don’t have an easy out. so maybe avoid going and sitting at her table and making small talk for a long time bc 1) she doesn’t know if you’re being friendly or flirty so it’s hard to say go away and 2) she can’t very well leave her own table to get out of the situation.

Anonymous 10w

If she was chatty before and has gotten quiet, sometimes there’s a nervous giggle that happens. Mostly, you should be looking for what’s called “enthusiastic consent”: AKA not just a “yes”, but a “hell yes” from your partner. If it’s not a “hell yes”, then pause, move out of her space a little, and ask. Most women will notice this as nonthreatening, and will be able to either A) reassure you that their yes is a yes or B) let you know to back off.

Anonymous 10w

if she is constantly looking around, she is probably looking for help, her smile is delayed, and doesnt reach her eyes

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#2 11w

example of a good way to approach according to above points: be direct with your intention. don’t small talk for too long leaving her wondering what it is you want. be clear whether you’re looking for friendship, a hookup, a date, whatever. this gives her clarity and allows her to easily say no if she isn’t into it. another tip is offer to give her your number. she has an easy out by just not texting you if she isn’t interested.

Anonymous

#2 11w

if you don’t like being so direct with your intentions, approach with a specific question or conversation topic. once she answers the question or you exchange a few words about the topic, wait and see if she says anything else to continue the convo. if she doesn’t, just leave. this is to be on the extra safe side if you really can’t read cues. warning that some shy girls may be interested and still not continue the convo but that’s a risk that comes with the less direct approach.

Anonymous

#3 11w

I had an experience with a girl who I suspect had past trauma and I think she might have had some interest but I decided to give her the space she needed. It didn’t end up going anywhere naturally but I’m Still trying to figure out whether my intuition was right, would you be okay if I dm’ed you for your opinion on the particulars of this situation?

Anonymous

OP 11w

Yeah, that’s fine!

Anonymous

OP 11w

I may or may not be awake for long but I’ll text you back tomorrow if I fall asleep

Anonymous

#2 10w

All of this is strong advice. Truly. Personally I just don’t talk to women or look at them in general. I’ll know if they’re interested if they try to engage with me directly. I call it the passive approach

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