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I just started college, I’m still 17 and I have never done anything. Like not even held hands with a man. I feel so behind but I don’t want to rush anything. I also feel like part of that reason is because I’m too “big” to be loved. I’m so confused 🙁
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Anonymous 4w

Don’t let anyone make you feel like size is a reason you should just hop on anyone who comes around and seems interested. Your sex life/habits are no one’s business and you have no obligation to disclose that. Take the natural feeling steps towards being intimate. I don’t believe in being “ready” but when you meet someone who respects your body, time, and boundaries you’ll be more inclined to a natural connection. One step at a time! Don’t focus on how far others have gone. This is your life.

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Anonymous 4w

I didnt do anything until I was either 19 or 20 (I don’t even remember bc it was right around my birthday). And it all just spiraled from there. It’s really pretty common.

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Anonymous 4w

i didn’t have like penetrative sex until i was 19!!! you’re def not alone and don’t rush it!!! i also rushed it bc he was older than me and i felt like i needed to and i regret it sm

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Anonymous 4w

There’s no rush to do things you don’t want or aren’t ready for. You don’t need to worry about where everyone else is at. You aren’t “too big” to be loved. You aren’t too much of anything. It just sometimes takes time.

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Anonymous 4w

i actively avoided men until i was 18 and wish i had for even longer because my first couple of relationships in college were not the greatest so i think ur good

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Thank you 🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Ofc. Also, that was me rushing everything at 19/20. Please don’t do that. It’s not like some huge deal I lost sleep over but I do regret it. I had my first kiss and everything the night i lost my virginity. Personally wish I waited until my first actual relationship at 20. The whole experience sucked and I think you’ll want to look back on all this in the best way you can give yourself yknow?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I’m so glad I’m not alone! I really want to have a connection with someone before I lose my virginity so I think as long as I stick to that I will hopefully be okay with it all. It’s really good to hear your story 🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

kinda wish i waited until it was with my now bf but also kinda glad i had some experience so 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Thank you for sharing! It’s so helpful to like hear people talk about this because I feel like girls only rush it because they think they need to which is upsetting.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

yes!! please please wait until you feel ready (but then again i kinda just wanted to rip the bandaid off per say)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

For me it was partially bc I felt like I needed to but also I was very sheltered and was like trying to be all cool and kinda threw myself into the “college experience” thing for a couple months. Which I don’t regret aspects of at all but… yeah just make friends and have fun with them, do some kinda stupid things if you want. That’s what I actually think of fondly

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