Ask Women on Yik Yak | Is it an actual thing that objectively attractive girls are frustrated because they’re not getting approached or is that like an “sigma male” social media myth?

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Ask Women 9w

Is it an actual thing that objectively attractive girls are frustrated because they’re not getting approached or is that like an “sigma male” social media myth?

Anonymous 9w

I’m medium attractive (I guess), I have not been approached in many years, and that’s perfectly fine by me. Actually quite peaceful and relaxing. I wouldn’t be particularly annoyed if a guy did come up to me in public in a respectful fashion, but I’d much rather get to know someone through an activity or mutual friends so I can see his character before there’s even a first date.

Anonymous 9w

No it's not like the social media skits you've seen or the movies you've watched. Attractive people will get approached eventually, it's always about how secure someone is with themselves, the more insecure, the more "frustrated" they will become because they're not 100% confident in their appearance

Anonymous 9w

I don’t know what it’s like to be a super attractive and outgoing woman, so I can’t speak for how that kind of woman feels. But I doubt that “frustrated that men are not approaching them” quite describes it. I think it’s more accurate to say that both men and women are frustrated that we’ve lost some of the social structure and scaffolding that made dating simpler in our parents’ generation and before.

Anonymous 9w

Last time i approached someone in public and respectfully asked for their number they were absolutely vicious

Anonymous 9w

I’ve only ever been approached by friends, and they each confessed they deeply liked me but then felt too shy to actually ask me out on a proper date (there was almost an expectation that I should do it, because they didn’t feel confident enough). So I think there’s an element of truth, it’s a little frustrating that as girls have gotten more confident and assertive in the world, guys have felt very shy about taking initiative. Or maybe I just attract shy guys/girls 😅

Anonymous

#1 9w

Ok. But is it like an actual that girls (maybe not you but maybe some you know) are frustrated with?

Anonymous

#1 9w

Yeah, I wouldn’t say I’m really frustrated by it. At the very least, it was confusing when I was single. But my fiancé and guy friends have since explained to me that I’m probably not getting approached because I have severe RBF and/or I’m intimidating

Anonymous

#2 9w

Alright. But do you know any girls who feel this way or is this a myth?

Anonymous

OP 9w

I can’t say I do. They mostly feel the way 1 described, peaceful lol

Anonymous

OP 9w

I think more insecure women are the ones who can get “upset” at guys not approaching them, so typically more unattractive I guess. Beautiful, attractive girls don’t really gaf if they know they’re hot.

Anonymous

#1 9w

As I understand it, there used to be more shared cultural norms about dating, and more third spaces and places where people naturally met. In addition, I believe things were more close knit, and people were more likely to be introduced to a date by a friend of a friend because they ran in the same circles

Anonymous

#3 9w

Obviously not true in all cases but statement made from observations and trends with myself and my friends and what I personally observe

Anonymous

#1 9w

It almost seems like approaching or pursuing has become like this great crime. As it result, it leads to less socializing, less dates, more loneliness. The men aren’t happy because they feel powerless to approach and the women aren’t happy because they feel like the dating scene has started to erode.

Anonymous

#5 9w

Guy or girl?