Anonymous #1 7w

and regardless of whether someone does or doesn’t like it, it was still a bad idea because it was very very predictable that the worst men would get upset and retaliate.

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Anonymous #2 7w

i mean as it is rn it’s kinda just hateful and not actually helpful. like concept was great but most ppl using the app aren’t going to uphold

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Anonymous OP 7w

Are you on the tea app? How do you know it’s mostly just hate

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Anonymous OP 7w

I never joined so in not sure, but from what I’ve seen from others it is not mostly hate

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Anonymous #2 7w

no not myself but i have a lot of friends who have been on there and they summarized everything they saw and I took a look at the reviews and chats that got leaked (not out of malicious intent) majority of it seems to be hyperbolized claims that you can tell are false. I’ve heard plenty of first person accounts from guys who have never dated anyone other than their current gf and they were reviewed on the app as well, and after confronting the person who posted, the girl admitted it’s jealousy

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Anonymous #2 7w

also it’s just common sense like if you give any group of people the ability to anonymously review another group, it will go from honest reviews to just dumb pettiness in seconds. it’s just basic human nature. plus think of it logically, if you were a woman dating a guy and u like him would u really go out of ur way to open a gossiping app to post smt good abt him or would u just not care for the app (or gatekeep him). like ppl on any review app are more likely to leave bad reviews over good one

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Anonymous OP 7w

Okay so you are basing this off anecdotal information and stuff you’ve seen on the internet. You have to take into account that only the super bad stuff is being talked about, if someone did leave a kind review about a man on the tea app you wouldn’t hear about it bc you are only focusing on the bad. And yeah, mostly the app is about warning girls about who to avoid, not leaving nice reviews. And it’s not fair for you to assume people’s claims are false

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Anonymous OP 7w

If I were to go on the tea app and leave a truthful review about a dangerous man, say i post about how a man sexually assaulted me. Is that morally right or wrong?

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Anonymous #2 7w

I feel like you should go to the police about SA, not an app… get him on a REAL registry

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Anonymous #1 7w

what if there’s nothing I can do legally. What if it happened years ago when I was 16 and I have no evidence of ever meeting him and no witness or anything. Trying to report him would be a waste of my time and likely bring all that trauma back into my life. What if I just wanna warn other women about what he’s capable of

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Anonymous #2 7w

but you’re basing your opinion on no evidence, like i said my friends who are women were on the app, they all had different feeds and saw different things and they came to the summary themselves after looking at multiple samples of info that most of it is not necessarily hate but just not real. and i’m not bashing the women are claiming to have been sa by a man, im talking the large majority that are posting green and red flags that they made up most of the time or are just super subjective.

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Anonymous #2 7w

and the info online i tlaked abt, it’s a general leak, it’s not cherry picked for the bad stuff, it’s just a large data leak, which put all the women at risk, so an app promoting safety put women at even more danger and risk then just not using it

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Anonymous #2 7w

also lastly, the app is partially marketed as being for warning abt bad men which is great i agree with the concept, but if u look on their app store ad you’ll see the other 2/3 of the app is abt leaving reviews abt guys, their green and red flags. so no it is abt reviews and so if h leave only bad reviews abt ppl then their lives would be ruined over what are just claims made anon women on the app, not discrediting their claims but its not fair that the men can’t defend themselves

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Anonymous #2 7w

what if they’re not the same person they were 16 years ago? that isn’t even relevant enough to post anyway, I’d be surprised if someone even remembered the name of someone 16 years later

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Anonymous #2 7w

in short it’s a great concept but TERRIBLE execution both technically with it being perceptible to hacks, but also just breeding a toxic community of hate speech and false claims ruining social lives based on very lil evidence. if a woman claims a man abused her, i wholeheartedly agree that that man should be looked into, no matter how lil it seems, that woman deserves justice but the man also deserves a fair trial. so a claim on a gossip app shouldn’t be able to ruin his life

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Anonymous #1 7w

i gotta disagree with h man, like doesn’t matter if they changed they still need to face consequences and punishment

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Anonymous OP 7w

I agree with this completely^ good concept, but would never actually work especially with the rise of sexism in women

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Anonymous #1 7w

I said when I was 16, 6 years ago. I’m not 32 jfc

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Anonymous OP 7w

I agree the tea app is being used wrong by some, but it is not morally wrong to go on there and post TRUTHFUL information to warn women about creepy men

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Anonymous #2 7w

again you keep saying some, it’s not some it’s majority. like genuinely it’s a gossiping app where you can say wtf u want and the other person can’t defend themselves, like yes maybe some of its truthful but there’s no way to know because there’s no evidence or context given, it’s just claims made. and u can see a trend that a lot of it is fueled but personal grudges or pure pettiness. lot of the reviews are made by exes or one night stands who had their feelings hurt.

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Anonymous #2 7w

Honeslty I think if you didn’t do something about it after it happened you’re SOL and that’s on you. Why wait 6 years to talk about it? I’ve had illegal shit done to me, I’ve been assaulted, but I fully accept that I chose not to report it when it was relevant and something could come from it so now all I can do is move on. No point dwelling on the past like that.

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