
what they were trying to say is, if you still have it and he doesn’t put pressure on you to do it and then he likes you for you, if you don’t have it then he either wants you for you or to do that and you really won’t know which one it is until he’s done because that clarity means if he sticks around then he always wanted you for you and if he doesn’t, then it was just for the thing
Hi OP, I am a guy and virgin by choice. What I learned is to map out all the different relationship types people are into. Some are downright toxic. There is sugar dating, poly, and etc that won’t really disclose that. So when you are looking, all that is there without context and people won’t be interested. Internet culture makes it easy for people to join fringe groups and they act out their fringe ideas for relationships.
What I am saying is that it is a jungle out there and the easiest approach is to invest in real communities where you see the people once a week or more. From there you can map out what is out there and see who shares the same relationship goal as you. All that takes time and basically sniff out games. It pays off later on.