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Hey girls if she tells me she likes me she wants to date etc but needs to time herself. Genuine or poor excuse? Any thoughts r appreciated
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Anonymous 5w

I feel like I’d need more context for what she was saying

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Anonymous 5w

when i was that fresh off a long relationship i was in a similar place and genuinely was not ready to give that person the love and energy they deserved. but i did not expect them to wait for me because that is no way fair to them and i had no idea how long it would take me to be ready

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Anonymous 5w

I’ve felt that and it was genuine, but idk her so idk😭 Somefimes you can have feelings for someone and understand that they’re not good for you or life has other paths it wants to take you down first

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I do too. I don’t know if you mean that she says she wants to take things slow, doesn’t want a relationship, or if she wants a relationship but wants to make sure she prioritizes herself.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

This context might help. We started talking 2 weeks after she got out of a year and a half relationship. She never wanted to get as deep as we were but she ended up really falling for me while also being aware it was way too soon for her to be in another relationship. I ofc wanted to move on but knew she wasn’t ready and she wanted my time to herself before settling down, which I respected.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I did cut her off solely for the fact I was way too hurt by just being more than friends with no label. It was stressful mentally so we are now no contact until she’s taken the time to herself. I told her whenever she felt ready to come back so we can make things work. I’m just worried if she’s taking this time to genuinely heal herself or if I’m just kind of a side option

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I would’ve powered through and been her friend instead of cutting her off.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

I wanted to push through it, but I’m WAYY too jealous, she had other guys friends. And imo the small risk we keep going and she ends up leaving me anyway. Would have hurt 10000x more than leaving when I did before we went longer

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

If you’re jealous of her guy friends now, how would you stand it when she’s her girlfriend?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Cuz if we are dating I have the security of the fact she’s mine. If she chooses to do anything which I don’t think she would it’s out of my control. It’s the idea if we aren’t dating and she has guy friends she technically could something and it wouldn’t matter cuz we “aren’t dating”

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

She told me this part too, she was like what if I come back in X months and you don’t want me anymore. I told her I’ll always be here for her she’s the sweetest most genuine girl I’ve ever met so that’s why I’m willing to give whatever time she needs

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