Sexual double standards. Nearly ruined my relationship with my bf because he was brainwashed and didn’t clue me in. He liked that I didn’t sleep around. But he didn’t like… waiting for sex. He pretended to be fine with it while secretly thinking I would change my mind once I decided we were meant for each other or something. This experience turned me into a feminist, which I am thankful for.
I explained to him that him having sexual double standards makes him impossible to date. I literally cannot both be ‘not a “304”’ and be willing to do it with anyone who says they’re serious about me, because idk who’s going to lie to me for sex. I told him that if he wanted me at all, he would have to accept that I will not do this with him until I am ready. Won’t be ready for a while because I am still watching to see if he pushes the boundaries. Pushing the boundaries = possible danger.