Anonymous #4 1d

Find the people who you genuinely find attractive or could see as the most attractive idea you could possibly be with. Go on dates and if you want smth, you gotta help put in like the idea of a date or when you’re free to the men. Again they suck. And find that one you really really vibe with and see how ore direct flirting goes and if they ask play it cool how you never cared still don’t but wanted someone interesting

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Anonymous #1 1d

Date a good one for a bit before letting them have anything. But yeah, don’t rush it, some guys are just in it for that and suck.

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Anonymous #7 1d

if that’s not something she believes in, there’s no reason for her to wait until marriage specifically. it’s completely possible to seek out the experience while also being intentional with how she chooses a partner

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Anonymous #8 1d

I made room in my reply for her not believing, I think even non believers should treat it as something special, didn’t think that was controversial

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Anonymous #7 1d

u didn’t make room for ppl who may not believe in waiting until marriage to have sex. i personally view sex as a neutral activity that is a natural human desire. everyone should be safe and thoughtful abt taking care of their mental health around it, but virginity is a social construct that shouldn’t be put on such a pedestal

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Anonymous #8 1d

No one ACTUALLY believes that in practice, because if it’s neutral then you can’t tell me why unconscious rape is morally wrong

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Anonymous #7 1d

i’m sorry can u clarify what u mean by “unconscious rape”? i’m not fully sure what ur referring to. also my b, i meant sex is a *morally* neutral activity and should have been more clear

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Anonymous #8 1d

I mean if there’s nothing transcendent about sex then unconscious rape violates nothing about a person so long as there isn’t physical damage, since the person will not experience/remember it it won’t effect mental health either, therefore totally permissible

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Anonymous #7 1d

no i meant what is “unconscious rape”? i’m inferring based on this comment that ur referring to assaulting someone when they’re unconscious or asleep. it’s still violating bc they could not consent. i do not define assault or rape as sex, it is an act of violence. i meant that partaking in CONSENSUAL sex is not something that is morally wrong or right.

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Anonymous #8 1d

No I understand what ur claiming but I’m asking a different question based on ur beliefs, you are correct in ur assumption of what unconscious rape is. But why would consent be necessary if it doesn’t violate someone mentally or physically

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Anonymous #7 1d

bc it’s someone’s person and body and health?? it’s a gross disregard for another person. just bc sex on its own is not a morally bad thing to do doesn’t mean it’s not wrong to treat them like a thing to be used without consent. sexual acts are morally neutral when in the context of informed enthusiastic consent, that changes when the context changes

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Anonymous #8 1d

You are asserting that it’s wrong but not giving any proof, they are not harmed physically and since they are h conscious they are not harmed mentally, what else is left?

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Anonymous #7 1d

i do not view any type of assault as sex, therefore assault or rape of any kind is not morally neutral in my worldview. i think we should wrap it up bc this isn’t helpful to answering OP’s question

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Anonymous #8 1d

What makes it assault if they aren’t harmed physically or mentally

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Anonymous #7 1d

Lack of consent makes it assault

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Anonymous #8 1d

I didn’t consent for u to reply to me does that make it assault

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Anonymous #7 1d

we both know that we’re talking about sexual assault, which is not the same thing at all as an anonymous internet back and forth. also u are asking me questions, which implies that u are seeking out a reply. let’s at least try to discuss in good faith

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