Ask Women on Yik Yak | In a long distance relationship (of 2), I asked to have her location for security purposes (she has seizures frequently) but she said no bec of bad experiences in the past. But just turned it on outta no where. I asked why: Her just bec, bec I wanted too?

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In a long distance relationship (of 2), I asked to have her location for security purposes (she has seizures frequently) but she said no bec of bad experiences in the past. But just turned it on outta no where. I asked why: Her just bec, bec I wanted too?

Anonymous 4w

if I were her, I would probably have decided I was being dramatic and then turned them on once I felt like I could trust you, but also idk I'm just a random girl

Anonymous 4w

Note: I respected her boundaries and never asked again. She also said she doesn’t like to have people with her location… Why would she just turn it on outta no where?

Anonymous 4w

Maybe because she thought about it and wants to trust you more. But if you’re in a long-distance relationship, she should really be sharing their location with someone way closer to her. What are you supposed to do?

Anonymous

#1 4w

Why wouldn’t she just tell me that then? Instead of saying “just bec, because I wanted to that’s the reason” why not be open and truthful about it? And I agree with you trust me I agree with you.

Anonymous

#2 4w

I’d wish she’d communicate how she feels more smh. But I see what you’re saying tho i appreciate it

Anonymous

OP 4w

yeah I understand where you're coming from but it sounds like this is a touchy subject for her so just give her time and maybe she'll become more willing to open up about it

Anonymous

#2 4w

I’ll take your advice for sure! That’s what I’ve been doing so I’ll continue to do that.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Past experience probably means abuse/manipulation. People in abusive relationships sometimes have to learn to hide any feelings that could be used to manipulate them. I know some narcissists personally, and I am very careful to give them no more information than they need. They use the VERY few things that they have to mess with my feelings anyway. I never let them see any sign that anything bothers me, because that will only give them fuel.

Anonymous

OP 4w

I used to put all my thoughts and feelings on display, but now I am more careful about who I trust with them. I haven’t been abused or anything, so for me this is more of a conscious choice. For people who have been abused, it can be more deep-rooted, like a survival mechanism or a way to feel safe. I’ve been around people who have been abused. Earning their trust takes time. Took me like a year. Different for everyone. For me it was a year of consistently showing love and respect.