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My friend called me a bad person and I’m hoping for a little context if you all understand. To avoid conflicts i decided to only date women I’m interested in instead of giving everyone a chance. I don’t want unnecessary feelings hurt. She said its rude?
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Anonymous 8w

bruh what i thought everyone was doing that. you should not feel obligated to go out with someone you’re not interested in

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Anonymous 8w

I just don’t wanna explore something then hurt someone’s feelings when we could both be spared if nothing started in the first place yk?

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Anonymous 8w

I think this is totally valid. I think I would be more offended by a guy leading me on and going out with me if he didn’t see it going anywhere. You’re not forced to do anything with anyone, go out with the people you’re going to enjoy your time with

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Anonymous 8w

No that’s what you should have been doing this whole time. Dating people you’re not interested in to “give everyone a chance” is kinda playing with peoples feelings if anything and I’d assume they’re interested in me if we were going out..

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Anonymous 8w

I thought this is how things are suppose to go? Its so pointless to date people who you have no interest in especially since its a waste of time on your part

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Anonymous 8w

Thats pretty normal, but I do have to ask cause it’s important for the context: are you hooking up with woman that you’re not interested in? Because I could see her pov if they’ve caught feelings for you and you refuse to date them. You don’t owe them anything but I do see these scenarios where guys string those girls along when they have no other intentions to be with them

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Anonymous 8w

I think it depends on how you phrased it but it’s not rude to only date women that you know you’re attracted to physically or other types of attraction

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Anonymous 8w

That absolutely does not make you a bad person. Because what would be opposite of only dating women you’re interested? Dating as many women as you can possibly fit in your day/week/life so that nobody on earth is disappointed? That would get very silly very fast

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Does that make sense or am I missing something here. Plz be honest with your opinions i can handle criticism.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8w

As long as you’re polite to people and don’t act like “not your preference” equals “ugly/undesirable,” you’re good

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

You’re right

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8w

The whole conversation started because there was a girl who drinks and smokes and I’m not interested in either of those so I didn’t give her a chance and said no thank you. Shes the only person who seems mad in this situation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

if you’re firm on that then stick to it. don’t let anyone make you feel bad for having dating preferences like that

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 8w

I’m waiting till marriage im a virgin gangy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

I don’t really understand how you’re being rude then, unless you’re doing that with the mentality that you’re better than everyone. I think there’s definitely difference between having high standards and coming across as critical and hard to please. That’s the only way I could see her pov, but idk if that resonates or not.

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