That's about exactly how it went for me, you need to be mentally ready also so your walls will loosen a bit as well, but its gonna hurt the first time for a little bit

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Hymen breaking is a bit of a myth

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did you do a lot of foreplay ? head or fingering ?

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Hi, dude here who’s a little bit bigger, you can never use too much lube… well you can but just be smart. My ex and I we’re eachothers firsts, it took a bit of experimenting for it to be less painful for either of us. Foreplay is also really important and being hydrated. If you are dehydrated your muscles are stiffer, and don’t relax/loosen

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this is exactly how it went for me last month! i actually started crying on like the third attempt bc i thought there was something terribly wrong– we just needed even more lube. i also hadn't ever had any fingers or tampons or toys in there before, so it was physically jarring

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