Don’t forget we’re people too, and really not that different. How would you approach a new friend? Be respectful about boundaries, never assume something is ok unless clearly stated. We love genuine conversations, getting to talk about what we’re interested in, visiting new places, connecting with people, etc. Honestly when someone is genuine and considerate (not afraid to be vulnerable), and is a good listener that is so attractive.

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I would love it if a guy came upto me normally. Lately every dude that approaches me is sexually/romantically aggressive or emotionally stunted in a way that reflects in the conversation (unironically using incel language or narrating their every thought with “chat,___” when there is no live stream audience listening, just me). I would just like a normal conversation, where there’s no pressure. The bar is lowk kinda low these days, just be chill and respectful, read the room, and you’ll be fine.

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Also don’t overthink whether you should be “nonchalant” or “chalant”. Just be yourself! If you don’t click, thats completely normal and ok, you’ll find someone you do click with. The last thing you want is to end up with someone who prefers a temporary version of you.

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I like when he is nice dress, funny, easy going, don’t admittedly try to flirt, first start a conversation that will get you really far

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Also, be respectful/nice if she says no, or isn’t interested! If you’re asking a woman out don’t make it very intimidating or big, (“hi i’m in love with you, where do you live?”) just be casual and considerate, like you would if you were talking to someone you wanted to befriend. Also, making actual female friends makes it easier to meet other women as well, it’s better to have a reputation as someone chill/kind who’s worth rooting for, rather than someone scary or a womanizer (women do talk)

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All great questions! Everyone looks for something different in guys but generally if you have these you’ll be considered in pretty good shape: Good listening skills, so many people just talk over each other and someone who active listens is very attractive. Good hygiene and not being afraid to smile are also things I notice!

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