Ask Women on Yik Yak | been w my bf for 3 years and he doesn’t go down on me 💔 any time i ask him it’s the same “it’s not you it’s me” sorta thing but he makes it seem like he’ll do it eventually which is honestly worse. but we’re also young so maybe that could affect it? sos

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been w my bf for 3 years and he doesn’t go down on me 💔 any time i ask him it’s the same “it’s not you it’s me” sorta thing but he makes it seem like he’ll do it eventually which is honestly worse. but we’re also young so maybe that could affect it? sos

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Anonymous 4w

Hey so once your partner lets you know they are uncomfortable with some kind of sexual act, you don’t keep asking. If you really need something like that sexually from your partner or the principal of doing something specific to your pleasure rather than his isn’t something he ever wants to do, then you should just break up.

Anonymous 4w

Please break up with him. 3 years is enough time to work up the courage to try something especially if it’s been communicated to him as something you want/need. If he’s not even touching you down there, he is not even attempting to pleasure you. Take it from someone in her thirties, please stop wasting your time with selfish guys and start advocating for your orgasm. There will be others like him so you gotta communicate up front that your pleasure is just as important as his, end of story.

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Anonymous 4w

3 years and he’s never made you finish?? that should be illegal. you should straight up sit him down and tell him you’ve been unsatisfied bc you’re putting in more effort then him.

Anonymous 4w

This is wild please leave immediately

Anonymous 3w

girl, if this man is not pleasuring you sexually leave. Sex is a huge part of a relationship and its important. Its equally as important as anything else in a relationship and after 3 YEARS. That man is not the one. Find urself a man that will be GLAD to make you feel pleasure. Been with my man 2yrs, he goes down on me every time, we have a great sex life, he always prioritizes me

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mother_russia 4w

It sometimes sounds silly to break up over something you sexually disagree on but pressuring him into it won’t be good for either of you and just staying as you are you clearly aren’t happy with the situation

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Anonymous 4w

Wait so he doesn’t even finger you?

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Anonymous 4w

Can I ask if he does anything to prioritize your pleasure at all? Or is sex just about him?

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Anonymous 4w

Oh wow, girl that’s actually a ginormous red flag. 3 years and never orgasmed? He’s doing literally nothing for you, not even the bare minimum, and then leading you on saying he’s working up to it???? He’s doing less for you now than before! He isn’t working up to shit!

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Anonymous 4w

You don’t deserve that kind of treatment from your boyfriend. You deserve someone who actually cares about you and wants to do things for you. At that point he is literally just using you to get off rather than having sex with you. You shouldn’t even count it as sex if you have came once in 3 years, you’re practically a virgin at that point girl 😭

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Anonymous 4w

If you feel uncomfortable leaving right now immediately, just start advocating for yourself. Tell him you want to cum during sex and that it can’t just be about him and his pleasure. Call him out for saying he’s “working up to it” but doing actually less for your pleasure than before. If you have sex again, say when he’s trying to be done that you haven’t cum at all that time and would like to. Dig your heals in about how he treats you and when you feel how hard he is pushing back…

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Anonymous 4w

You’ll honestly loose feelings so hard.