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Best first date idea w/ a guy from a woman’s perspective (realistic) 👀
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Anonymous 14w

It’s not the when and where. It’s the person that makes the date. If you really click with someone it doesn’t matter what you’re doing.

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Anonymous 14w

i prefer daytime (or like afternoon) first dates. i also like activities that are easy for you to talk during, mini golf is a fun one imo. if the activity goes well, i’m a drink girly so i would love to grab coffee or boba afterwards or maybe a sweet treat. this is my preference but honestly i don’t have super strong opinions on what we do, as long as there’s ample opportunity to talk! most of my first dates have been dinners lol

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Anonymous 14w

Minigolf

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Anonymous 14w

Go out for food but don’t go restaurant. Go someplace fun where you can walk and talk. Coming from guy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

For a first date, keep it neutral. Coffee, restaurant, picnic, movie. Low commitment.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

That makes total sense, but I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about how a lot of women are wanting “a man who yearns” and all that and while I am absolutely someone who is like that, I feel like there’s a super fine line between being too much and not showing enough emotion if that makes sense

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Right but you can’t be yearning heavily from the get go lol. Sure lots of people fantasize about what they want from a potential partner but realistically you build on what you invest in. If you get along with someone you can start showing more and more interest however you display interest and affection. You can’t take the posts completely at face value.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Agree with #2. I think the yearning builds up over time. My sense is that the fantasy is about being wanted deeply by someone you also want, and realistically it may take a bit to find out if you want them in that way. And tbe same for the other person.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

I meant agree with #1 but I agree with all the advice so far!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

I gotchu haha Glad you agree!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Thank you guys, I really appreciate your input :)

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