Are you in Utah or something? There is no rush. Things get rushed once you have a ring. I was engaged once and I did it for the wrong reasons. It wasn’t the right move for me personally even though it was a very serious relationship

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DO NOT GET ENGAGED AT 20 OMG. there is no rush. You both are young, barely even adults. Take your time, do it when it feels ready, not because all your peers are doing it

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it’s not wrong to want to be engaged but you should prolly think more realistically given your financial situation. what’s the rush ?

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you didn't say anything about actually wanting to be engaged, just that people you know are doing it. wait until you actually want it for yourself without the pressure of keeping up with the joneses. if you think your marriage will last if you get engaged/married soon, then the relationship will still be there if you wait. for some people it works out to get married young, but the reality is a LOT of people divorce ($$$$ even amicably) because you've yet to grow into your goals/personality

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the divorce rate is 50% because people get married out of a sense of obligation 😭

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Um, do not try to get engaged/married just to follow the trend of people YOU know getting engaged/married, for one it seems less genuine that way and two you will just add unnecessary stress upon your relationship you previously seem content in already.

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Keep in mind you haven’t seen the eventual outcomes of these friends’ engagements. A lot of first marriages fail. I think it takes a few more years so that you can be really openly honest with yourself about what you want out of life.

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