Ask Women on Yik Yak | i’m a freshman in college,18, and currently seeing a junior and he’s 20. a lot of my friends have said that the age gap is weird and i didn’t think it was but now they’re giving me a complex and idk what to do. he’s never done anything that makes me (1)

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i’m a freshman in college,18, and currently seeing a junior and he’s 20. a lot of my friends have said that the age gap is weird and i didn’t think it was but now they’re giving me a complex and idk what to do. he’s never done anything that makes me (1)

Anonymous 4d

It’s 2 yeas?? Your friends are jealous and hateful that you pulled a gentleman. Follow love

Anonymous 4d

it's definitely not inherently bad, but follow ur gut

Anonymous 4d

uncomfortable or anything like groomy. but i’m js really confused now and i feel like guilty and maybe my friends r looking out for me but the way they say it js makes me feel worse. idk what to do. should i not be seeing him? (2

Anonymous 4d

It’s just two years lmao if it’s over 4 years it would be weird for your age

Anonymous 4d

two years between two current college students is not weird

Anonymous 4d

i really don’t think it’s a problem as long as you remain in control as it’s simply a casual relationship! if you let him start to dictate everything i think that’s where the age gap (even if it’s small) can being to create problems. i had a two year age gap and that’s what happened with me at least! just make sure you stay true to what YOU want and not him.

Anonymous 4d

It’s normal. Everybody be tryna be woke asl abt age gaps sometimes

Anonymous 4d

The gap is fine. But maybe your friends are more concerned about the gap in the context, like his behavior or smth?

Anonymous 4d

Dude ur 18 why do they care

Anonymous 3d

Gonna be 23 soon, um. Looking back, 18 and 20 doesn’t seem bad at all. Your friends are just jealous.

Anonymous 3d

It’s just 2 years. No where near a bad age gap. It sound like they’re hating a little bit.

Anonymous 4d

i’m 20 my partner is 28 ur fine girl. ur both adults and ppl are always going to find problems if they look hard enough.

Anonymous

#2 4d

that’s what my other friend told me and it’s my relationship so obviously ik what’s going on and know more than they understand of our dynamic

Anonymous

#3 4d

that’s what i’m saying. i thought they were being dramatic and said we r in 2 different stages of life and were like ur fresh out of hs and he’s not but it’s rlly not an airtight argument to me

Anonymous

#4 4d

they’ve never even met him so they’re going purely off the age gap 😭which bothers me bc it makes me feel like they don’t think i can handle myself or make the right decisions??

Anonymous

OP 4d

You’re fine then. It’s gotta be a ‘girls protect girls’ thing.

Anonymous

#4 4d

it’s lowk annoying bc it’s a guy friend that’s making a big deal out of it

Anonymous

#9 4d

i have no idea like it’s so infantilizing tho and it’s js making me doubt sm

Anonymous

OP 4d

I dated a guy in highschool who was a year and 8 months older than me (I was 16 he was 18). I guarantee this is fine

Anonymous

OP 4d

If they keep giving you shit tell them tough titties and change the subject

Anonymous

#10 4d

i had two friends specifically who were so jealous and hateful towards me when i got with him that i don’t speak to them anymore. they would take every second they could to criticize him or me and ofc i had other friends who expressed concerns but not in the a way that made me feel bad, guilty, sad, or stressed. some ppl are just going to be haters and i dropped mine for my own peace and sanity.

Anonymous

#10 4d

how long yall been together

Anonymous

#7 4d

almost 8 months now!

Anonymous

#10 4d

also who downvoted me 😭 i completely understand it looks like an insane age gap but like damn let me be happy

Anonymous

#10 3d

Just don’t walk into any situations you can’t get out of, like financially

Anonymous

#4 3d

oh for sure. i’m about to graduate and i already have a job lined up! we’re both very aware that i’m in a different place in life and that it’s important that i can support myself and that i finish my education and all that. he’s my biggest supporter when it comes to my career goals and once i graduate we’re both going to be making super similar salaries so we’ll be equally working together to support each other and our future from a financial standpoint.

Anonymous

#10 3d

Wow, that’s awesome! :) In that case, I’m happy for you.

Anonymous

OP 3d

Girl listen to your feelings. If you like him and he treats you good, that’s all that should matter. The age isn’t even that bad.