Anonymous #1 6w

I don’t know why I’m like this I don’t think any of my friends boyfriends are cute at all but idk why I feel the need to have them validate it

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Anonymous OP 6w

Think of it like how people have different tastes for everything and you will never find something that everyone likes. Food, fashion, music, etc. It’s all so subjective. You’re not gonna change your fashion or music taste for something maybe more people like (but still not everyone) so why would you change or base a life partner around that

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Anonymous #1 6w

Ohhhh true

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Anonymous #2 6w

I feel like I just always question bc I’ve never been in a relationship

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Anonymous OP 6w

I mean thats fair, either you think hes attractive or you dont, unfortunately I cant really help with that since Im not in your mind but good luck either way

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Anonymous #2 6w

Damn it I hate my mind

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Anonymous OP 6w

I didn’t date at all until I graduated high school. First sort of relationship was totally unexpected. I specifically said I did not want to get a boyfriend right before leaving for college. All went out the window when I met someone at a friend’s party. I had NO idea what I was doing, but it was like a magnet drew us both towards each other. It didn’t become official before we left for college, so we went our separate ways. 5 star review though, I hope that guy is happy.

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Anonymous OP 6w

Second relationship is the one I’m in now. This one wasn’t the same sort of instant magnetism, it was more gradual. I was just looking for a study buddy because I got lonely doing my homework, so my attention was split between studying and falling in love. Lots of chaos surrounding us too, which definitely made focusing on the relationship difficult (I got 3 different violent threats from 3 different people in one year). I knew it was happening at first because I started losing track of time…

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Anonymous OP 6w

… and my study process was thrown off by weird mixes of emotions. I kinda lost my ability to use stress as fuel for schoolwork. Fell in love slowly but completely. For me at least, being close to someone I’m in love with feels like stress/excitement/insomnia for the first week, like floating to the moon for the next few months, and then eventually, more normal— happy, but not overwhelmingly life-disrupting. I try not to focus on looks too much. Just how they behave and how I feel about them.

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Anonymous #2 6w

Neither of the people I dated/almost dated liked everything about their looks. Since I’m not very plugged in to societal beauty standards, I actually have no idea if they’re generally considered attractive. If I think you’re a good person, I will want to see your face and therefore think it is attractive. So I tell my bf he’s cute because he is.

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Anonymous #3 6w

I love the way you typed that all out I’m high so I felt like I was reading a good book but yes this was helpful I need to get out of beauty standards

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