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having high standards for yourself and anyone your attracted to and allow to engage with you romantically but not even having candidates feels pointless does anyone relate?
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Anonymous 9w

I guess so… I wouldn’t say this is the same as high standards, but I have a rather narrow type that I’m able to be attracted to. I’ve accepted that this means my dating pool is much smaller and I may find a suitable partner later if ever. However, I would choose that over what feels like settling, since I’ve settled before (and it didn’t benefit him or me). I’m not resentful about it, it just is what it is in my situation.

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Anonymous 9w

I understand what you mean. I have standards that shouldn’t be high but they are. I’ll find the right person and I’m willing to wait until I’m past my early twenties for them.

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Anonymous 9w

It’s not just men not meeting ur standards that’s the problems. Ur standards are a part of the problem too

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Ooo! I genuinely have no type physically so I’ve never thought about what it’s like to have a very very very narrow window for that. How narrow?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Very narrow - it’s a combination of a somewhat common physical type (chubby/fat man) with several intellectual, hobby, character, and personality traits, AND the ability to put up with my complicated neurodivergent needs and traits, lol. (just because I like a man doesn’t even mean that he’s going to like me - I don’t expect someone to “settle” for me either.)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Now this i like. I like clear interests and knowing what you like.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Oh, I had the same situation. Luckily I found “the one” I hope you’re able to someday as well.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

Thank you! I’m glad you found the one! In your case, did was it through a dating app, or did you meet them just going about your life somehow?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 9w

Just say you’re incompetent. Some standards may be high but still can be very reasonable.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 9w

I don’t think we have enough context to know whether that’s the case

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