I don’t think there’s much correlation between irregular cells and not being able to get a tampon in. I don’t think waiting until 22 will be bad. You could have Vaginismus

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I wouldn’t be too concerned about the pap smear being one year late. When I got mine done, the doctor explained that it’s just a precaution when you’re younger, and you really only need to go more often when you’re older like 50+. As for the pain, that sounds horrible and a bit concerning, but don’t worry yourself too much with crazy ideas. Sometimes people have more shallow vaginas, or a thicker hymen, or whatever. There’s a LOT of things that could cause that and a lot of them aren’t scary.

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