Ask Women on Yik Yak | Do women actually have equal empathy/sympathy for male victims of SA by female perpetrators or deep down do yall secretly feel less bad for male victims but you don’t want to say it out loud because you don’t want to seem like an a-hole?

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Do women actually have equal empathy/sympathy for male victims of SA by female perpetrators or deep down do yall secretly feel less bad for male victims but you don’t want to say it out loud because you don’t want to seem like an a-hole?

Anonymous 7w

Personally I always believe the victim first, idc what genders were involved. One of my guy friends was sexually assaulted by a woman and if anything I feel more sympathy for him because some of our other guy friends think it’s a brag that a girl was on him when he was black out drunk

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Anonymous 7w

I absolutely have equal sympathy. SA is not okay no matter who does it. Male victims are not as listened to and heard as they should be and that’s something I am trying to help change.

Anonymous 7w

I feel just as bad for them with the additional knowledge they will probably get less help and support because the existence of male SA victims is not universally acknowledged 🩷

Anonymous 7w

I do but I’ve seen the way men respond to other men who have been assaulted and it’s disgusting. It really sucks that they discredit men as well

Anonymous 7w

Definitely have equal empathy. I don’t want anyone to have to go through that.

Anonymous 7w

most people don't wanna admit that they sympathize unequally, but i think a majority of women of all ages feel harder than for women because of B4 movements, imagining other women's shoes being violated is more daunting

Anonymous 5w

SA is still SA no matter the gender, it is never okay. If I ever see someone do it, I’ll help you find the concrete.

Anonymous 7w

NO one, man or woman, should have to go through SA. i think due to the mechanics of sexual acts of any kind, it’s considered “hard to prove” assault of a man by a woman (which shouldn’t BE a thing but albeit we’re still an ignorant species) so we take men’s cases less ‘authentically’ or ‘seriously’. and then toxic masculinity and hyper toxic bro culture etc etc.

Anonymous 7w

I do now, but it was something I had to learn and turn over for a while. I couldn’t understand how a man could be sexually assaulted or raped outside of childhood but I kept seeking out people’s stories and listening to as many people as I could to get the understanding I have now. There was a learning curve definitely but everyone’s got to start somewhere and I’m glad that I stuck with it and kept listening to people instead of going with the convenient narrative

Anonymous 7w

Short answer: yes Long answer: some narcissistic assholes in the SA survivor movement seem to want you to be a “prefect victim” before you can be officially credited as a survivor. Surviving that shit should not be a credit based system. It should be we believe victims and trust people won’t abuse the movement. People who do abuse the movement for personal gain should be considered to be supporting perps even if they want to tell you they “care”.

Anonymous 7w

No they don’t.

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Anonymous

#7 7w

that being said no, not ALL women have equal empathy for male victims.. but id argue MOST women would 100% sympathize with ANY victim

Anonymous

forget_me_not 7w

The SA survivor movement should have never been “man vs woman” it should be “perp vs victim” You can’t support survivors if you believe that under certain circumstances SA would be impossible or permissible. That’s what many get wrong. I’m glad you have changed your views here.

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 7w

Here’s the main issue -Male survivors are not listened to especially if the girl knows she can cover her ass by pointing the blame in his direction (basically think pre me2). And men take him to be laughing stock -Women who support male survivors often face more harassment from other men (often the same ones who are perps themselves as well as backlash from other women. TL:DR if you are a male survivor, you are fucked and this is so not ok.

Anonymous

#2 7w

In fact if the girl is seriously intending to hurt him, she will just make up shit and file on him either with the uni or just tell all her friends the lie. He will have no way to defend himself and will probably end up wanting to unalive…

Anonymous

#4 7w

Some girls refuse to believe women can absolutely be shitty ass humans. People are people after all and as much as it would be amazing if all women were great, that simply is not true even if women are generally safer.

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Anonymous

#6 7w

The same language that many men used to target women “oh she wanted it” is used even harder to target men “ohh how was her body? You musta liked it” Many Men by default believe every man dreams of having reckless sex with any girl that will let him hit. This is such a violating assertion to make and also makes it theoretically impossible for a guy to get hurt. SA is still mostly a male created problem and men prove this in how they treat both women and men who don’t want to choose their partners

Anonymous

#9 7w

*do

Anonymous

#9 7w

Me too, it helped when I had a better understanding of what consent actually was, and from there it was easier to realize how little information there is about safe and informative sex