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Ask Women 7w
Why do some women like men that hurt them?? What’s so good about that or a relationship like that :/
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Anonymous 7w

To quote Perks of Being a Wallflower, “we accept the love we think we deserve” To quote my therapist “we accept the love we feel safe in.”

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Anonymous 7w

childhood trauma, trauma bonding, low self esteem, anxious attachment, fear of being alone, desire to ‘fix’ them

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Anonymous 7w

Probably trauma

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Anonymous 7w

Bc it’s as good as it gets

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Anonymous 7w

It’s mentally

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 7w

I don’t understand, how does that feel safe? Like protected safe or secure safe?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

If you grow up in a household full of conflict, it becomes normalized for you. People in these scenarios get used to the conflict and learn to expect it, sometimes even becoming comfortable with it. At that point, times of peace and tranquility can seem unfamiliar and strangely distressing, so they may feel more regulated or apt to respond in times of conflict like they’re more experienced with. Only true in some cases ofc, this absolutely doesn’t apply to everyone

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