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GIRLS I GOT A QUESTION- first time I had sex with this guy, after he cleaned me up like full on was wiping my ass but like was sweet and chill abt it….is that normal or like does that give bf vibes?! (We have been talking for a bit)
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Anonymous 1d

That’s called aftercare and it’s normal

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Anonymous 1d

i’ve had casual partners do that for me. he could just be a nice considerate guy.

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Anonymous 1d

Aftercare should be standardized and not special. It is not. If you like him keep him if he wants to be kept.

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Anonymous 1d

Wiping cum isn’t a dating sign

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Anonymous 1d

I’m gonna be honest, I’m not a girl but he just did kinda the bare minimum. 🤷🏾‍♂️

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Anonymous 1d

Hunny that’s standard. I do it for my boyfriend (vice versa) but even in casual hookups. If your previous partners didn’t bother with aftercare I’m kinda concerned. If you’re interested in him you should go for him though.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

Bro thank you, idk why people acting like EVERYONE does stuff like this because alot of guys don’t so it’s pretty normal to be like damn he cared enough to do that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

It should be part of a relationship and there you should expect it and also give it. Aftercare is also having a supply of drinks and snacks ready in case of a particularly long play session. It’s cuddling and talking and putting on comfort movies and shows. And it becomes more important the kinkier play gets.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 19h

Exactly, I’ve had forms of aftercare before just not that and to me it was EXTREMELY intimate. People acting like I asked if he was in love with me😭 I completely agree that it should be part of a relationship and that’s more so what I meant

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

I’m really glad to you that’s the bare minimum! A lot of guys don’t even know what the word aftercare means! It’s not to be expected because most guys don’t care enough.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 19h

TMI- I had never had ywk land on me so I’ve never really had to be “cleaned” up so I didn’t know what to expect

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

It should be but it is not! A lot of guys will not go out of there way to and it is sad

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

I mean it could mean he’s relationship material but it could mean nothing and he’s just like that as a person.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Yea, you’re correct, most guys are insanely clueless. Also, I think most guys need to be in therapy, not in box. It would help them be better in every way, including in the bedroom.

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