Ask Women on Yik Yak | Can someone help me with this situation: A girl walked up to me in the bar a few weeks ago and I fumbled. She did AGAIN a couple weeks later and this time I got the number. She ghosted me when I texted. Tonight I saw her AGAIN and she talked to me.

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Can someone help me with this situation: A girl walked up to me in the bar a few weeks ago and I fumbled. She did AGAIN a couple weeks later and this time I got the number. She ghosted me when I texted. Tonight I saw her AGAIN and she talked to me.

Anonymous 4d

She sounds toxic.

Anonymous 4d

I just gave a halfhearted wave when I saw her come in but she initiated AGAIN. She made physical contact with me, made jokes about the ghosting, and kept talking to me despite short responses (I’m very inexperienced in this) Was she just approaching me again for fun or did I miss signs and she wants me to text again??? When I said goodbye she joked “I’ll just ghost you again” and I was like in my head… well you said it was a red flag so I wasn’t planning on it

Anonymous 4d

Possible she's just weird Possible she or you is a terrible texter Possible she's just trying to have fun when she's with you in person but gets bored when it's text

Anonymous 3d

What did you say over text?

Anonymous

#1 4d

Fair enough. Seemed quite genuine to me but def a possibility

Anonymous

#1 4d

But like… even if she’s toxic did she mean by apologizing for the ghosting at the beginning that she wasn’t interested or by joking about it that she wanted me to try again (even if it was just for her to play a game)??? She said it was a red flag to text her asking to meet up because a lot of guys approached her. But she approached *me* and gave me her number so I’m confused about that “red flag” in this situation.

Anonymous

OP 4d

It’s just one perspective but I’ve done it.

Anonymous

#1 4d

As in she’s legitimately uninterested and doesn’t want me to text again, is playing a game for fun and is unserious but wants to lead me on, or is she legitimately interested and this is just her way of “the chase”?

Anonymous

#2 4d

I second this.

Anonymous

OP 4d

I’ve done it because I enjoyed the attention but didn’t want anything else from the person.

Anonymous

#1 4d

That hurts 😂 When I said goodbye she said “I’ll just ghost you again” and I said it would hurt I cringed that I could’ve had a more whimsical comeback 💀

Anonymous

#2 4d

Tbh I do think she is a little weird. Some girl friends of mine stalked her on Facebook and see seems quirky Same friends told me what to text her so I had a female perspective text so that would probably be her that was the bad texter (I definitely am, but it wasn’t me sending the two texts that I did, the request for meeting up and a 2nd) She doesn’t seem like the type to just want attention (I think she’s cute but she’s not Margot Robie so it’s not like everyone is tripping over themselves)

Anonymous

OP 4d

I’m being real with you. I’d stop entertaining her.

Anonymous

#1 4d

Okay tyvm that’s what I needed

Anonymous

#1 4d

In my current state after several drinks I’m gonna tell you the truth and in reality I’ll def let her lead me on… but this is certainly good to have in my back pocket and thank you very much for letting me know 🙏

Anonymous

#1 4d

BUT I do promise you that the next time I communicate with her it will be because either 1) she texts me or 2) next time I see her out I will NOT be texting her

Anonymous

OP 4d

And by the way, I do like that she’s a little weird. By no means am I the most normal, attractive, or “womanizing” person so a weird person is exactly what I need/am looking for

Anonymous

OP 4d

Better I guess.

Anonymous

#1 4d

Seeing as I am currently stumbling (more than i ever have) at home and not driving (i had a bunch of straight whiskey after getting home) this is a great thing

Anonymous

OP 4d

Chug a bottle of water before bed buddy.

Anonymous

#1 4d

I had a liquid IV and will have another/a glass of water before another but tyvm 🫡