Ask Women on Yik Yak | so guy here, i wanna know if yall think it broke of me or cheap of me for not wanting a girl with the provider mentality. like im a college student, and im really smart with money, grew up with none and now i actually have money so i dont wanna go

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so guy here, i wanna know if yall think it broke of me or cheap of me for not wanting a girl with the provider mentality. like im a college student, and im really smart with money, grew up with none and now i actually have money so i dont wanna go —

Anonymous 13w

fueling a girls shopping habits or sending her money. liek wanting 50-50 in a relationship while both of us are college students should not be a deal breaker. plus most men who are “providers” usually are weird af and treat it like a transaction

Anonymous 13w

It’s going to be a dealbreaker for some but 50/50 can also be a dealbreaker, nothing wrong with wanting things to feel equal financially and being smart with your money

Anonymous 13w

There r plenty of women out there with this mindset, just make sure ur open and honest with them from the get go. I will also say it’s completely fine as long as ur also fine with, after living together, to split household chores evenly as well. It’s not to say that I think that u would want her to do everything, but there r def some guys out there that want 50/50 split of money while still expecting women to do all the household stuff as well

Anonymous

#1 13w

but like how do you bring that up to a girl, like i would love to pay for every date and provide, but i dotn have the financials nor have i gotten to a point with a woman where i wont feel like im wasting money on smt that wont last

Anonymous

OP 13w

Before you go out on the first date ask if she’s okay with splitting the check, and if you end up dating her for a while then you can start to spend more on her

Anonymous

#1 13w

sounds good, but i don’t think i’ve really met many any women who would be okay with that, or it might jsut be a preconceived notion

Anonymous

OP 13w

I think it’s the latter tbh And if she’s not okay with it then you know she’s not the one to waste time on

Anonymous

#1 13w

thank you

Anonymous

#1 13w

Definitely the latter, I think I have that provider mentality but I’m in the same boat being in college/brokeish.. and they know that too, most have tried to help out where they can when it comes time to pay up or suggest free date ideas instead. We kinda go back nd forth in my current relationship, like if I pay for this meal/date then she WONT let me pay on the next one.

Anonymous

#2 13w

i need me some that😭 don’t let that one go