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Ladies, I’m confused why she brought it up if she doesn’t want that with me… any thoughts?
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Anonymous 13w

Maybe she felt like the current friendship you two have may have been leaning towards a fwb or a more romantic situation and she's reinforcing what kind of relationship she wants with you so there are no more mixed signals or future misunderstandings

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Anonymous 13w

I’m actually equally confused too lmao but idk what was said before this part of the convo…maybe she thought at one point you were trying to become more and she was just using it as a preemptive excuse why she wouldn’t? That would be the only logical thing I could think of, but if it truly was out of the blue then idk why she wouldn’t say these back to back lol

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Anonymous 13w

Looks like she’s reaffirming a boundary of what kind of relationship she wants with you (friends) then because when you said “idk how much longer we’ll be fwb” it sounded like you were about to say “I want you”

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Anonymous 13w

Did you ask her why exactly she wouldn’t expect you to ditch your FWB for her? Does she think/know you’re unwilling to commit to her? ARE you willing to commit to her? Bc last I checked, ‘girlfriend’ preempts and outranks ‘fwb’, doesn’t it? (🚹🏳️)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

It was kinda out of the blue? Idk, when I told her I like what we have I meant friends who talk about anything and hang out.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Ok with this it is pretty confusing but maybe this was said more for her sake than yours 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13w

She got out of a long relationship a bit over a year ago. I’m wondering if she’s trying to weigh what she wants with not getting hurt again, but the female mind confuses me…

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13w

I agree but I do think she went about wording it in a confusing way, like phrasing it so that it seems like the only thing stopping them from going further is his fwb instead of just saying she enjoys being single from the jump yk

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

Oh for sure im not disagreeing with that

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 13w

I didn’t think about that, thank you 🙂

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 13w

Incidentally, did he totally fumble this by NOT saying he wants her?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13w

We’ve talked about that briefly when I brought up that I had a fwb at the time. She knows I’m not looking for commitment and neither is she, but she tends to get more invested if things get physical. That’s why we haven’t been going that direction.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

If she’s not looking for commitment why is your fuckbuddy a dealbreaker? She doesn’t consider exclusivity a commitment?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13w

I don’t think he fumbled. I think her answer would have remained the same of she’s not ready for anything serious

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 12w

I wonder what she replied after your response. But what it sounds like to me is that she may want to get more romantic with you, but she doesn’t want to say it without you admitting your interest first. And you not downplaying the fwb as something you arent emotionally involved in could have made less open to show her motivation

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 12w

ayy sorry meant to reply to the post not the comment. Anyway, I’m a bit surprised by the “im not interested sorry” response. Maybe she wants to be wanted and is super scared to show her own commitment? Or she actually doesnt want relationship but she could want to be fwb, but only if youre exclusive with her? It sounds to me like she wants to be more important for you than the fwb person

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