remember that virginity is a social construct and if it’s not important to u to have ur first time with a long term partner, then that’s okay! ofc be careful and safe with anyone ur having sex with, but i don’t think being a certain age/waiting for a long time makes a hookup “pointless”. as long as everyone is a safe, consenting adult, do what u think is best for u :)

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I did it this way and i prefer that outcome much more than i would waiting and putting undue pressure on myself about making it perfect and special cuz it will probably not be incredible. U gotta practice for it to be rlly great imo. For me the first time is about having fun and figuring it out

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Ima dude, it’s your body do what you want just be safe

9

I’m waiting so it can be special. Of course you don’t have to do that, but then you have to watch out for guys who are just looking to take advantage of you, and I wouldn’t be surprised if they dipped immediately after taking your virginity. I think it would be a much better idea to wait for the right person to come and give it to them. Just get a dildo 😭😭😭 not to mention you could get pregnant, or an STD…. or something worse!!!!!

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Yeah, I’m a dude so I know it isn’t exactly the same but I’d like to do it once. I don’t want a relationship yet but I’m tired of being a virgin. I’ve been on the fence about just joining the hookup culture, was told I would do pretty well.

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I lost it to a guy, who had zero experience with virgins and proposed a fwb relationship. Do I wish it was a different guy? Maybe. But I think I’m happy with who I lost it to or the way I did. It’s a personal decision. If I lost it to a bf I think I’d have a harder time moving on if the relationship ended.

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Down the road thinking back it will have felt meaningless. As long as that’s ok then go for it. Not sure why everyone wants it to be like hey it’s whatever. Personally for myself I prefer it to be an act of mutual affection and not a handshake situation. Ymmv.

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