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What makes a man creepy? I don’t cold approach women as a man in order to avoid that label.
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Anonymous 3w

One thing is making a woman feel like you’re trying to pressure her to keep talking, keep interacting, go out with you, give her number, like you back, etc. It helps to keep interactions genuine yet light. Try to make any interaction feel like she could easily decline any of those things without feeling rude.

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Anonymous 3w

It is much more the nature of your approach and behavior than it is the circumstances. Being approached isn’t always the issue, being approached when I’m obviously alone, busy, in a rush, at work, etc is annoying or potentially stressful. Then the expectation of conversation or a date is frustrating. Just don’t expect to get something out of me when it’s not an inconvenience for me to say no. Nothing personal like 99% of the time, I just don’t want a bf :)

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Anonymous 3w

If you see them uncomfortable don’t force it

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Anonymous 3w

Adding to others input- as much as I hate to say it, if you are genuinely unattractive to them or aren’t well put together, you’re first impression will most likely always come across as creepy. It’s a sad truth because even very attractive people can obviously still be creepy and conventionally unattractive people can be very genuine. As a man w a gf, I’ll be out at the bars and consistently seen other men that just look and act dirty and even I get the creepy vibe and distance myself

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Anonymous 3w

I’ve just been out the game for so long that I don’t really know what I’m doing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Creepy= approaching a woman without introducing yourself or asking her name and trying to make passes when you can see she’s with friends or not very engaged Charming= approaching a woman while introducing yourself and asking her name, offering to buy her a drink/talk later, noticing she’s with friends and seeing your exit, having good engaged conversation and leaving when it’s appropriate (give her your number and then see if she’ll bite!!)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

This is why as a single man I would rather use a dating app.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

As a woman I think dating apps or meeting someone through a shared activity are more practical than cold approaching. Not saying cold approaching has zero success or that you can’t do it politely, but I just find it harder to envision a scenario where I would meet a potential date in that way.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

(It may work at bars or other spaces where people are there to have a good time and meet people, but since I don’t go to bars, I couldn’t say one way or the other about that)

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Anonymous replying to -> linenpants 3w

your* 🤦‍♂️

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