Ask Women on Yik Yak | I’m asking my as a woman, if a guy who you’re going on a date (2nd date to be exact) says something that completely invalidates your feelings (ex. If you’re trying to open up about your anxieties/past loneliness/mental stuff) would you continue seeinghim?

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Ask Women 3w

I’m asking my as a woman, if a guy who you’re going on a date (2nd date to be exact) says something that completely invalidates your feelings (ex. If you’re trying to open up about your anxieties/past loneliness/mental stuff) would you continue seeinghim?

Anonymous 3w

Because I went on a 2nd date with this guy and he just said the most invalidating things, even if he was just a friend I would be shocked. So after that i stopped wanting to see him. Am I in the wrong?

Anonymous 3w

It totally makes sense to stop wanting to see him. There’s no need to spend time on someone who’s showing you. they’re not dating material for you.

Anonymous 3w

If he said something invalidating out of ignorance, like he’d never heard of your condition before his life and didn’t know what’s polite to say or not, that would be one thing. But it sounds like you could tell pretty clearly that it wasn’t OK.

Anonymous 3w

of course not

Anonymous

#1 3w

I was telling him about how I felt lonely freshmen year and I didn’t bond well with my dorm mates and he literally has time to think about it/what to say and he says “boo”, like even if he was a friend I would be like wtf?

Anonymous

OP 3w

Oh… I wasn’t there to hear his tone of voice, but “boo” sounds well within the range of normal responses if you’re trying to say something sympathetic, but don’t know what to say. Like “that sucks” or “bummer”. I would assume he is booing the people who weren’t good friends, or the situation in general.

Anonymous

OP 3w

No. Run. If you end up with him, this will be a lifelong struggle and you will be unhappy.