
I kinda want to create a sisterhood of women who want village style parenting, men optional. No pressure to make things work with a partner because our relationship is built on trust and safety, not sex. We can all date whoever we want, but a man’s involvement in the community must be voted upon before he can be allowed in. Kids allowed to see their fathers if they want to ofc, and free excuses not to if they don’t.
Also in regard to what you said about bad men, even relatively good men are often inadequate. A man can be part of the 43-78% who never SAd anyone and still put in zero effort around the house, still drunk drive with the kids, still vote for Trump. Women on the other hand will help out with all these things without assaulting anyone. When you look at the data, traditional marriage is often a scam.
If I had to judge you based on this conversation, I’d simply say you’re afraid of the unknown, afraid of a sexless life, and less open-minded than me. Not an intelligence issue. You’re human. Your specific kind of human is not the kind I want to surround myself with, especially given the anti-gay implications of your belief that two women cannot raise boys without a father figure in the family, but that doesn’t mean you’re stupid.
The need for examples to follow is something I take seriously. I know what it’s like to grow up with an inadequate knowledge of all the many female role models in many different areas of expertise. I asked a male professor how he balances work and children, and he said “I have a wife”. Clearly he’s not my role model in that regard. I think a solid backup plan is providing imaginary role models. Fictional stories, but also made up religions. I’m tinkering with a God+Goddess religion to that end.
It would not be anything like Christianity. There would be full understanding that I made it up and full transparency as to why. No threats, no shaming, nothing at all like the religious trauma I see from so many ppl who grow up Evangelical Christian or Mormon. Exploring religion has helped me deconstruct patriarchy, Christianity, racism, and imperialism. It is a useful tool when used intentionally.
My goal is to raise men who grow to be full humans. Our current society crushes the humanity out of so many men. It is a pyramid where a few ultra wealthy men pay other men to bribe politicians and spread propaganda to boys, who then internalize the propaganda and over time lose the qualities that make them amazing people. Qualities such as imagination and empathy. Men are already treated like they don’t matter. Men are already used as cannon fodder. I want to fix that.