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Im worried I matched with a woman that has a kid on bumble. She’s cute and I would love to get to know her. But her last picture is her with a kid in matching outfits. Yet her profile says she doesn’t want kids. How do I bring it up?
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Anonymous 6w

Want kids and have kids are two different things on profiles, she might have a kid and not want more, so you need to ask her cuz if you want kids, you need to know sooner than later

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Anonymous 6w

Context: i do want kids and I generally don’t mind them but I don’t want to be a stepdad at 24!!!

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Anonymous 6w

If you don’t want to be a stepdad, unmatch she’s clearly not the one for you. You two won’t ever be on the same page b

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Anonymous 6w

Maybe when you're talking ask if she has kids and mention the photo on the sly chance that it may (hopefully) just be her sister or niece. If it is hers then just be honest with her and express your concerns

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Anonymous 6w

Woah, these are big jumps😭 some people have siblings or nieces/nephews. She might even work with kids or volunteered with them. Don’t automatically assume it’s her kid cause I’ve seen people post pics with kids just cause it’s usually seen as a green flag if someone is good with kids (even if they don’t want them in the future)

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Anonymous 6w

Why did you match with someone who said they didn’t want kids when you want kids?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Yeah then she’s not for you. She doesn’t want any more kids and she has a kid so if you wanna be with her long term you’re gonna be a stepdad and even dating her, that kid is a huge part of her life

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

I texted her. I’ll see how it goes and inquire about the kid.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 6w

Accidentally.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

I hope that’s the case. But idk. I’ll see how/id she responds…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Did she have a kid?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 6w

Idk. She never replied. She mustn’t have liked me asking about the toddler in her pictures even tho her profile said she didn’t have kids 🙄

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