Anonymous #1 1w

Yeeesh… I don’t know. Hookup reaching out and bf responding would be polite. Unless his ex won the us open or the powerball, he shouldn’t be saying anything to someone he’s had a romantic history with while currently making a commitment to you. Sorry, but that’s basic respect.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Part of this isn’t from me being domineering though, I actually did once congratulate an ex hookup about graduation and it was awkward, unnecessary, and kinda weird of me to do (still feel embarrassed). I think making a commitment to a partner means focusing exclusively on that relationship and making sure that they’re the one you’re celebrating. You can be quietly happy for someone who’s no longer in your life without needing to announce that to them.

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Anonymous #2 1w

I’m just wondering what the relationship was. I only have one ex who I grew up with/was my best friend, and he’s not in my life anymore but I still congratulated him on his new job. I’m the type to even congratulate an enemy on an achievement. I also don’t believing in leashing my partners. I’m not so insecure or immature that I think my boyfriend talking to an ex would lead them back into bed together because I don’t expect my boyfriend to cheat.

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Anonymous #1 1w

And if he did cheat, then it’s not my fault. The day we start guarding our partners and locking them in cages is the day romance will die. A big part of love is trust, let’s not forget that

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Anonymous #1 1w

The only reason I don’t trust him rn is because when we first starting talking he was still calling her on the phone and receiving nudes from her. So I was uncomfortable that he was talking to her and congratulating her and then they had a convo afterwards. Even tho it was 5-6mo ago when this nude thing happened, im still not fully healed and dont trust him fully yet bc that hurt. We weren’t dating yet but we were hanging and staying at each others places everyday for 3 weeks while he was

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Anonymous OP 1w

still doing this with her behind my back.

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Anonymous #1 1w

Their relationship was purely hooking up with no strings attached but it went on for over 6 months so im sure there was some attachment from one or both of them.

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeah OP said hookup (and commented details), which to me just feels like OPs boyfriend is taking chances to talk to her without definitively cheating. However OP, you weren’t together. I hate to say it, but if you guys hadn’t been official, committed, and communicative about the terms of ANY relationship between you two (besides just what “felt” official), it wouldn’t have seemed as inappropriate or out of line. Sucks

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Anonymous #2 1w

The weird period in between “talking/dating” and “being official” can cause a lot of turbulence or confusion if both people were not making the choice to be exclusive and cut ties with other potential/previous relationships. You don’t know if someone you’re likely to start a relationship with is on the same page with you until you ask about it. I understand being upset, I would be too, but there is a reckoning you should take by understanding things were maybe not homogenous yet.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Now the real question is why is OP with this guy…like, babe, he was talking to said hookup sexually when you two were speaking and wants to talk to him again? I’m sorry, but no man is worth the embarrassment

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