Ask Women on Yik Yak | do you girls have bf that release their anger by leaving the room and hitting shit in the other room? my bf of 6 months got frustrated at something so he left, went outside and kicked shit. came back, wasn’t mad at me at all but clearly he was upset-

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do you girls have bf that release their anger by leaving the room and hitting shit in the other room? my bf of 6 months got frustrated at something so he left, went outside and kicked shit. came back, wasn’t mad at me at all but clearly he was upset-

Anonymous 1w

When men hit the wall a lot of times he is saying I could do this to you

Anonymous 1w

at me. i want to know if i should probably be concerned or not. again, he didn’t release any of that anger onto me neither verbally or physically. and when i asked, he made it clear to me that he’s not upset at me. but again, he really did go off on those inanimate objects 😭😭 and well yeah it was kinda scary when i peeked out the window lmao 😭

Anonymous 1w

Has he been mad at you before

Anonymous 1w

not healthy. people who see violence as a way to release anger will almost always move that violence onto people at some point

Anonymous 1w

My bf occasionally uses excessive force when extremely frustrated, but I’ve seen the shit that gets him there, and I would honestly do the same in his place. There’s zero threat behind it, and I’m never scared or startled when it happens. He has never broken anything that belongs to me. It is never because of something I did.

Anonymous

#2 1w

Because this time you said he got frustrated at something, I’d be concerned if that anger reaction was directed at you when at some point in a relationship you’re going to be mad at each other idk

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OP 1w

You know what I mean tho right? I tried to explain it the best I could

Anonymous

#2 1w

yeah i understand what you’re saying. i’m just confused overall bc in other instances that he’s been mad at someone or something, he has controlled himself. and he’s had a previous long term relationship and they’re friends now so like… he hasn’t done anything to her. but at the same time i get the others pov.

Anonymous

#3 1w

Hi psych worker here, this is not true. Therapists also recommend to clients to find a healthy outlet of anger, sometimes hitting inanimate objects is recommended as an outlet. That being said, if there is any moment where you’re like “oh that might turn on me”. Either vocalize it, or dip. The kind way being to do the first, then if the first doesn’t make you feel safe do the second.

Anonymous

#5 1w

he didn’t hit a wall. he went outside and kicked a chair and other things

Anonymous

#4 1w

yeah i don’t feel unsafe. it’s just shocking to me. he usually is very composed when upset and communicates his feelings to me. so when i heard him kicking shit it caught me off guard af. but after talking and adding up the new situation on top of his current life circumstances, i understand the crashout. and again, i asked him like 3 times if i was the problem and he assured me im not, didn’t even raise his voice/snap at me and came back inside calm.

Anonymous

#6 1w

Using excessive force can mean anger management issues, not enough healthy outlet for emotions, or it can be a form of abuse. It depends on when he does it and why, how you feel about it, and what he’s done about it

Anonymous

#6 1w

He could try doing a sport that involves destroying things, throwing things, or even fighting. Sometimes people just need a proper outlet