Anonymous #1 1d

Wow this was so helpful and life changing I have never ever thought of this 🫩 this is a newer development.

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Anonymous OP 1d

I mean it's the truth. You guys have different lifestyles that are incompatible. Why can't you break up?

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Anonymous #4 1d

I don’t exactly recommend my way of dealing with this, it’s just the thing that I did with the resources that I had.

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Anonymous #4 1d

I stopped feeling anxiety over stuff like this after repeated emergency situations. I found out that my fight/flight/freeze/fawn response is typically freeze, and after experiencing this a couple times, I made a bunch of emergency plans and practiced/rehearsed them. From then on I no longer froze because I knew what to do. Over time I got desensitized. Is this healthy? Idk. It’s just what I do apparently.

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Anonymous #3 1d

I have. That’s what worries me.

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Anonymous #4 1d

Thank you bc you’re the only one who seems to get it LMAO

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Anonymous #2 1d

He has basically zero support from anyone except for me. He’s 18 so he’s not a GROWN adult

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Anonymous #1 1d

Because it is genuinely never that simple that’s why…?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Haha, I guess we have similar experiences

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Anonymous OP 1d

Part of what helped in my case was identifying and addressing what went wrong to cause the drug behavior. He didn’t really want his life to go that way. His story isn’t mine to share in any identifiable way, but I will say this: people with happy, normal lives usually don’t just turn to drugs. Usually there is some personal struggle or peer pressure involved.

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Anonymous OP 1d

He might have bad friends he needs to stand up to or cut off. Maybe he has too much work and stress. Maybe there are some things he can do to make his everyday life better so that he doesn’t have as many reasons to turn to drugs.

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Anonymous OP 1d

I will say, weed isn’t always the worst thing a person can do. Sometimes it is a valid way to self-medicate. Ketamine outside of a doctor’s office is bad though. And all of that stuff can be laced.

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Anonymous OP 1d

does he have a plan for his future? is he in college, trade school, etc & getting good grades? can he hold down a job and pay bills? also, if you want kids one day weed impacts male fertility. tell him that

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Anonymous OP 1d

Then talk to more drug users.

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Anonymous #4 22h

The only problem with the weed is really just overuse and the brain fog and the stupid stuff he’s done while high. Just HIS use of it really

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Anonymous #4 22h

This is definitely true

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Anonymous #4 22h

I know the why and that’s what makes it harder bc he could absolutely make his life better on his end but he isn’t putting the effort into doing so

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Anonymous #1 20h

Weed does not affect male fertility lmao💀

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Anonymous #3 20h

There are no “pros” to ketamine dawg😭

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Anonymous #5 20h

yes it does stop smoking that shit. it’s not worth it

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Anonymous #1 20h

We’re trusting the Google AI🫩

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Anonymous #5 19h

it’s just a summary of these sources

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Anonymous OP 19h

queen. you should sit down and have a real heart to heart conversation with him but at the end of the day, if he doesn’t want to change, you’ll end up stuck with a man child who has unhealthy coping mechanisms and refuses to reach his potential.

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Anonymous #5 19h

People get something positive from it that’s why they do it so 🤷

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Anonymous #3 18h

Go pack it up.

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Anonymous #1 18h

Oh I broke up with him. That’s another story. But he is now doing much better than before.

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Anonymous #1 17h

Just realized this was for OP. Yeah, after reading her last comment, I agree. If he’s going to change his habits, he has to want to. My ex really wanted to be free from drugs, and that is what drove him to make that change. It came from him first and foremost. He did it with the help of others, but that would have been impossible if he didn’t want to be free.

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Anonymous OP 17h

You know more about the underlying reasons than I do. If it’s the toxic influence of another person, building up his self confidence and telling him over and over that he has a right to be himself might help. Also building community, introducing him to good people who respect him and his space.

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Anonymous OP 17h

With toxic influences, the truth comes out eventually. The toxic friend will eventually show their true colors. At the same time, the good friends will be the same as ever. He’ll notice that. Also, if you can build a good support network, there will be less pressure on you. You’ll feel more free to stay with him or leave, without the guilt of seeing him lose his only safe space.

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Anonymous OP 17h

Yeah from experience, weed gets rid of all the subtle looks and movements that make someone look like themselves. When someone I love starts getting high all the time, it does kinda feel like I’m losing them. Their body is there, but they’re not themself.

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