
Yeah. Ive dated guys who were super romantic super nice in the beginning, then switch up out of nowhere or find out they’re lying about something major. Women don’t purposefully choose shitty guys. Women give these nice-seeming guys a chance and don’t find out until later on that they are not good partners.
My sis was divorced before she graduated college. It was definitely not her fault. We’ve both gone through multiple awful relationships. I feel like no one should be judged or looked down upon for their past relationships unless there is a clear undeniable pattern that warrants judging
A recent study found that 95.1% of men who had some kind of sexual encounter within the last two years engaged in some kind of sexually predatory/coercive behavior. The problem isn’t that women are bad at choosing. The problem is that most men don’t have enough empathy for women to truly treat them well. Any time you try any man, chances are he will do something shitty.
Hi I am a guy that is a virgin by choice. I too am perplexed by the trust issue among people. What I see is either people with bad intentions or good people with bad experiences from bad people. Either way trust is low and barriers are high for good treason by some. What happens this becomes a maze and a jungle to navigate and for a person to truly trust another. It’s too much time and energy for this to happen while being too easy for a bad person to take advantage.
The only way around this is to invest in real communities and get to know people overtime in real life and make a pick there. The other odd thing I noticed is many don’t want to spend the time to do that which means they don’t have a way around from bad people wasting their time or bad experiences. So basically this is like some singularity event where peak internet culture doesn’t have a third space for people see each other in real life.
I looked into the study and I don’t really agree with it. Saying this as OP here and I clearly support women. It considers some pretty stupid stuff to be coercive like “Had a female friend around to make the woman feel safe”. Like what do you want the alternative to be, just have men around her instead? Or like “Used your money, age, status to convince her”. Yeah… humans are materialistic creatures… we care about this shit. Should I just be broke and be a bum instead? Pretty misleading imo.
Did I say my experience was universal? No. But obviously this happens enough to be a problem based on this post being made, the amount of upvotes, and other people’s comments sharing similar experiences. It doesn’t happen to everyone but it happens enough to be a fucking issue. I know people have different experiences, I never said otherwise.