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I recently broke up with my first GF. It was just because we had different long term goals. My question: she’s my 1st but what even is there to learn? What IS “dating experience?” I don’t think I learned anything that isn’t common sense/decency?
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Anonymous 11w

dating experience to me is learning from mistakes you made in past relationships and becoming a better person and partner. also figuring out your long term goals and values you look for in a partner. hope this helps:)

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Anonymous 11w

I just think of dating experience as learning how to navigate struggles with differences, settle disagreements in a healthy way, have clear communication, and be able to balance the relationship with the rest of your life

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Anonymous 11w

Continued: I’ve read so many posts online that people who haven’t dated much “don’t know how to be a boyfriend”. I didn’t even see that as an issue. I wasn’t her first bf but she WAS my first gf. I literally didn’t see why tf that matters, it wasn’t hard to be a good partner and I hadn’t done it before. We broke up because she wants to get married right out of school and I want a good job first, that was the only incompatibility.

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Anonymous 11w

I feel like you can learn a lot about what you like/don’t like, what you need in a relationship, what your boundaries are, and even certain patterns or behaviors you have in a relationship( like attachment styles, how you show love , and how you like to receive it). There’s probably so much mroe

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Anonymous 11w

Dating experience means let’s go fuck a bunch more people and have realizations

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

I also think that thing is kinda bs bc my first relationship I was also a good partner, and it’s not hard. But there are definitely things you learn just like as in any life experiences. In that case, it could be that you learned to talk about a future with someone, such as timing of marriage and what you want before that.

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