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How come when girls want a guy to pay for all their stuff they want a provider man but when a man wants a woman to tend the house he gets told he wants a mom

Anonymous 5w

Those are two completely separate scenarios and different ppl

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Anonymous 4w

I genuinely think you need to take a break from social media for a bit. Using social media as an example or representation of all women is simply not true. Most of the shit that’s posted is rage bait people post to get views - men AND women! Normally the women I see IRL, it’s two different women with two different perspectives. The women who want a provider typically have no problem being a SAHM & adhering to gender roles in the family. +

Anonymous 5w

Provider / nurturer.. they don’t want to be a maid or a mom. They want to be a loving partner. And if a woman expects you to pay for *everything* , that might be an issue. That’s only okay if the man willingly offers in my opinion..but it depends on the person. Some will be awful and take advantage of that type of dynamic:/

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Anonymous 5w

It can be two different people saying this stuff? I don’t need a provider man but I’m certainly not going to tending the house, I have my own job.

Anonymous 4w

I think that this take has some merit, but dude u gotta get off socials and just go out into the real world lmao

Anonymous 5w

Because the woman is supposed to be his partner not his cleaner if he wants someone to attend the house so bad he can get his mom to do it or do it himself

Anonymous 5w

Because both men and women typically only use the word “provider” to refer to money and nothing else

Anonymous 5w

Honestly, that’s totally valid!

Anonymous 5w

I don’t let guys pay for my stuff. I like earning money and being my own breadwinner.

Anonymous

#4 5w

Well no? It’s women justifying one but hating the other

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Anonymous

strawberry_hair 5w

But it’s the same women who want one and hate the other

Anonymous

OP 5w

No?

Anonymous

#4 5w

Yeah? I’ve seen plenty of it. The same women who want a provider hate on men who want a home maker

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Anonymous

OP 5w

No. And paying for things doesn’t really make you a provider. I have my own money. And I’m not gonna clean up after someone other grown adult regardless of what I believe. A pet or a child yes but the child will also learn to clean up their messes eventually. But an adult who had 18+ years to learn how to do it no

Anonymous

#4 5w

Dawg I’ve seen it loads of times. Go to those TikTok’s about splitting bills. And good on you for having your own money. But the women I’m talking about don’t want to work and want a man to buy them everything yet hate when a guy wants a home maker. I’ve explained this clearly already

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Anonymous

OP 5w

That’s TikTok. Have you seen it in real life? And just bc you’ve seen it doesn’t mean it’s a really universal thing and it’s still different scenarios. It can be different ppl that say those things

Anonymous

#4 5w

TikTok and social media is a representation of real life wants and opinions?

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Anonymous

OP 5w

No they’re not? Social media is only a glimpse of life not all of it. Ppl only see what you allow

Anonymous

#4 5w

And then there’s clickbait so

Anonymous

#4 5w

Okay so they’re just saying random shit for fun?? Like they’re just lying out their ass about what they want??

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Anonymous

#4 5w

It’s real accounts of real people

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Anonymous

OP 5w

Yeah. It’s clickbait for like incels and to rage bait most of the time. Not all of social media is taken seriously

Anonymous

OP 5w

Well duh they aren’t bots. But it doesn’t man they necessarily believe what they say. It’s for views

Anonymous

#7 5w

Ok and if she wants someone to pay for her all her stuff with no obligation she can get her dad to do it

Anonymous

OP 5w

Just say your broke gang

Anonymous

#7 5w

Just say you want your dad gang. Freud is calling

Anonymous

OP 5w

Anonymous

#7 5w

Didn’t deny, interesting. A man is supposed to be her partner and not her wallet. If she wants all her stuff paid for and not doing any work, she can go get her dad or get a job herself

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Anonymous

OP 5w

bruh no one is wasting their time denying to you

Anonymous

#7 5w

Why would a man pay for everything if you did nothing in return. Genuinely? The way my point flew over your head and your hypocrisy is astounding

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Anonymous

#7 5w

The problem is that men expect the woman to be the one cooking and cleaning everyday when almost all women also are working full time. This is the norm. That’s the problem. Most women are not stay at home.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Meant for OP

Anonymous

#2 5w

And that is clearly not what I’m referencing if you’d read my post. I’m talking about that large amount of women I see online who don’t want to work and want a man to buy them everything yet refuse to do any house work.

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Anonymous

#2 5w

If one person pays bills then the other should take care of home stuff. But many of those same women complain and say that these guys want a mom instead. If both people work then both people split house work

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Anonymous

OP 5w

Well that’s not a large amount of women in general. I don’t know/see any even online really. Idk what your algorithm is showing you

Anonymous

#2 5w

Idk if you’ve seen the whole trend of splitting bills. If a woman pays anything there’s around 50+ comments say I hope this love never finds me

Anonymous

OP 5w

I think your algorithm is messed up and keeps showing you that stuff bc you’re spending time on it and reading comments and stuff. I spend way too much time online and haven’t seen that once

Anonymous

#2 5w

Ok? Are you saying just cause you don’t see it doesn’t exist? Number seven is prime example of a woman who wants their bills payed with nothing to give in return

Anonymous

OP 5w

Obviously I’m sure it exists, plenty of people exist that believe all sorts of things. I don’t think it’s as common as you think it is at all. Also I’m confused if we are talking about dating or marriage. What kind of girlfriend is cleaning their boyfriends place

Anonymous

#2 5w

And marriages typically are shared finances and both have jobs so idk

Anonymous

#2 5w

I mean serious relationships. Marriage or been dating a few years and moved in

Anonymous

#4 5w

Nope they are most definitely not!

Anonymous

#8 5w

What’s not

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Anonymous

powwowwie 4w

The women who dont adhere to strict gender norms are the ones most likely to have a problem with cooking & cleaning for their man. Ofc not EVERYBODY falls into these same categories and maybe does have this mentality you speak of. But I guarantee you it’s not as common as you think. These two women go after two different types of men & I would like to think they discuss with their partner the lifestyle that works for both of them.