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Ask Women 11w
Is it creepy to ask women out in Target/grocery store/other place?
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Anonymous 11w

depends on how you do it

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Anonymous 10w

Think about “if a super intimidating guy much bigger than me was doing this to me, would I be a little freaked” And there’s your answer. If no, you’re probably okay. If yes, think about what part of the interaction would make you uncomfortable, and tweak that.

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Anonymous 10w

Yes. Creepy. And unlikely to have people say yes unless you’re really fine and they like men they don’t know

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

Go up to a girl you find cute, talk to her, get her number.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

yeah it depends on how you do each of these steps lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

What more is there? I’ve never seen it happen tbh, but I hear of people doing it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

"go up to a girl" - are you approaching while she's busy, hassled, clearly not in the mood to be approached? are you touching her? "talk to her" - are you forcing conversation when she seems uninterested and is trying to get away? are you asking about uncomfortable topics, or being suggestive in conversation? “get her number” - are you asking despite receiving signals of disinterest? not taking no for an answer? a yes to any of those questions is an example of how you could come off as creepy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

No to all those.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

well i wasn’t literally asking you and this isn’t a comprehensive list, just examples of how more details are needed to determine if it’s creepy or not.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

There’s one issue. And I’m not trying to be a smartass. I’m not gay. If a super intimidating guy much bigger than me even waved at me I’d be freaked. I don’t mean this in a smartass way. I literally mean I can’t put myself in a straight woman’s shoes of how it looks when I am not attracted to men.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

it really doesn’t have much to do with attraction. you can be creeped out by a guy you’re physically attracted to, you can be perfectly comfortable during an interaction with a guy you’re not attracted to. if you would be freaked out by any interaction with a bigger guy how do you make friends lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Good point. I make my male friends in classes and stuff. I’m usually buffer than the people I befriend though.

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