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I took a step back from my friendships because I realized I was the one consistently reaching out to check in & make plans & now my phone is so dry. I’m growing pretty resentful. Any advice? I feel like I shouldn’t have to ask ppl to consider me
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Anonymous 1d

It’s okay to feel resentment and anger but it’s best to tell them instead of holding it in bc you’ll start holding unnecessary grudges. Now if they keep doing it then I say it’s best to end those friendships. You deserve to be considered as much as they consider each other

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Anonymous 1d

I’ve had the exact same situation. You need to tell them how you feel. That’s the most important thing.

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Anonymous 1d

I don’t think it’s about asking people to consider you. I think it’s about finding balance in a previously unbalanced relationship. Imagine you’re tasked with moving a couch for a friend. You single-handedly carry the couch up three flights of stairs and say ok, now you can do the last one, and the friend kinda scratches their head. If they could have done it alone they wouldn’t have needed to ask. I think it’s important to communicate your needs and figure out how to work together better.

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Anonymous 1d

I’ve tried this, and it did nothing, maybe for the first few weeks, but after that no. However, that was only a recent situation. In the past, it has worked, and I’ve also been on the receiving end. Sometimes, it’s not about them not caring for you, but rather that they might not want to bother you. You should ask them if they think of it as them bothering you or not having time from them, and then expand from there. Good Luck!

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 1d

I don’t want to tbh. Why should I have to ask multiple grown people to check up on me & want to hang out with me. Feels like I’m begging.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 1d

Especially when I see them do it so effortlessly with their other friends. I don’t think they prioritize our friendship as much & that’s okay.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I told some of my friends and they didn’t realize. But others I also realized they just didn’t care. It can be a mix.

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