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So my boyfriend suggested I dye my hair blonde, not telling me I should just said he thinks it would look good. But I know in the past, he has been more attracted to blondes which icks me from the idea of doing it. What should I do?
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Anonymous 14h

Don’t dye your hair if you don’t want to

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Anonymous 9h

As someone who thought I wanted my hair blonde and dyed it but it was really subconsciously cause my bf at the time liked blondes, don’t do it

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Anonymous 14h

It’s hard to say exactly what to do. In the end it’s your hair and your relationship. But here’s some questions that might help: Do you think you’d look good with blond hair? Do you even want to dye your hair? Would it make you happy? Do you feel like if you did dye your hair he would be upset if you let it fade to your natural color?

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Anonymous 14h

Dont be the type of person who is disinterested in doing something just because that thing makes you more attractive to your partner. Check yourself, that should make you more interested in doing it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

I’m not entirely against the ide, like I think it could look good. I just get icked because it feels like a comparison to porn yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

did he make the porn comparison?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14h

No, but I know he used to watch porn of blondes. He doesn’t watch any porn anymore because I told him it was something I was not comfortable with and he respects it. I just know it was the type of woman he liked to watch. I got that information from a question I had asked willingly.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

He definitely still watches it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

You being grossed out by him asking you that is pretty justified, then

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 12h

Adding on, do you think if you expressed similar sentiments, he’d react well? Do you think he knows he made you uncomfortable, and does he care? If you wanna do it, do it. But don’t feel like you have to

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10h

Extremely good points 6!

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