Anonymous #1 2d

This is ironic considering that, in Ask Men, a woman from a day ago posted asking: “How do you let a guy know you’re interested? I like a guy from work but I am not sure he likes me or knows that I like him. For example if we are sitting next to each other and our legs are touching he moves his away”

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Anonymous #1 2d

It would be even more ironic if the OP of this post is the guy from work that the OP of the post in Ask Men likes!

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Anonymous #2 2d

I would have also commented similarly on that post but I'm not in ask men

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Anonymous #1 2d

You would have commented that the OP is not interested contrary to what OP is saying in her post? Or you would have commented that the guy OP was interested in didn’t like her back?

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Anonymous #2 2d

I would have said let your coworker do their job, they're not secretly flirting with you

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Anonymous #1 2d

You and the 9 other people who upvoted you are the problem with this generation, and why we are so isolated, smh. It would we one thing if the OPs had described behavior indicating such, but with no context?

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Anonymous #2 2d

genuinely, how does that in any way make me the problem with this generation? I'm saying that if someone was actually interested, they would make it clear, and if they were making it clear then OP would tell us things they did or not even need to ask the question in the first place. since he did ask the question, there probably have not been any obvious signs, and trying to read romantic interest into tiny polite interactions with a coworker is a recipe for disaster.

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Anonymous #1 2d

and in the example from ask men, they are describing behavior that makes it quite clear the person is likely not interested, so i would respond the same way: don't touch someone with your leg, let them do their job.

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Anonymous #1 2d

I mean, as a man myself, I agree with the other men who commented on that post that they would assume it was unintentional and move their leg away to avoid being creepy themselves regardless of whether they were interested or not. The problem is if everyone is afraid to make their interest clear unless the other person makes their interest clear, no one is going to make their interest clear, even if both people are mutually interested in each other.

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Anonymous #1 2d

Like your leg touching someone else’s accidentally, or in a way that could plausibly be perceived as accidental, isn’t making your interest clear.

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Anonymous #2 2d

I think it is good if people do not assume or expect romantic interactions with coworkers. idk why you would call me a problem for that. if I was interested in someone from work, I would pursue that relationship outside of work. I would strongly dislike someone trying to flirt with me at work and I think it is good to discourage that behavior. idk what else to tell you

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Anonymous #1 2d

Well sure, pursue it outside of work. But I generally think it is better if people are direct and straightforward rather than being unclear and expecting the other person to magically pick up on it and be clear themselves.

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Anonymous #2 2d

I 100% agree with that statement, which is why I would discourage people from trying to read romantic intentions into minor interactions at work

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