Anonymous #3 22h

I have been thinking this for a while now. I think i’m somewhere on the aroace spectrum but i don’t want to be.

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Anonymous OP 22h

i definitely understand that thought, i spent a long time contemplating how well asexuality actually fit for me. what matters is your own comfortability and boundaries in romantic/sexual situations! if you arent sure or dont want to use labels, thats up to you, no one else. however, i think it’s important to talk about what youre feeling with your partner if it bothers you frequently

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Anonymous #3 22h

i just want so badly to feel normal. do you have any recommendations on how to come to terms it?

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Anonymous OP 21h

people on the aroace spectrum are just as normal as everyone else, the right people will understand your boundaries. it may take more work to communicate what youre feeling or willing to do with partners and it may not always be easy (trust me ive felt it) but putting yourself first romantically and sexually will save you from situations you regret or hate to look back on. i found that just doing more research on the experiences of people who identify that way can help someone feel less alone.

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Anonymous OP 21h

it could also help to seek out groups online that share their stories and find people that have similar feelings in relationships to relate to, i remember feeling so much less alone when my friend group was primarily LGBTQ of some sort, with most of us leaning ace.

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Anonymous OP 21h

aroace person here, I used to kiss my partners but only did it for their enjoyment. you could be gray-aro instead of fully aromantic, but that’s something you’ll need to find out yourself. you can’t change this, but you can work with it. like #3 said, find someone who will respect your boundaries. you deserve to be happy in your relationship.

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Anonymous #6 19h

Not a girl though

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